Gifted parents with gifted children

[Au79]

I prefer the term High Learning Potential but there you are.

Can we discuss joys and concerns of being an HLP adult, with reference to how we deal with watching our HLP or any ability kids grow up?

This thread is not to justify why we think we qualify or for false displays of modesty, but to share problems and discuss solutions.

For starters, how much baggage and preconceptions do you think you carry and project from you own childhood experiences of school onto you child? I know I do it all the time.

Are YOU overexcitable or intense yourself and so modeling it and feeding it in your child?

Do you think the school system in improving with the very new focus on the higher end of the achievement spectrum?

My potential was brushed off as difficult behaviour at primary (I was bored!) and nothing was done. If I finished work in less than half the time of everyone else I was just told to sit there and be quiet. This was in the 70's and I dont think that many teachers were equipped to deal with anything outside "average" at either end of the spectrum.

I have been concerned that the same would happen with my lot but thankfully it hasnt. Their abilities were recognised early and nutured to the point where all 3 are now classed as G&T and are being stretched where needed. I had a one size fits all education and it sold me and many other short, thank goodness that doesnt seem to happen anymore.

i dont see much of a link to money tbh. does that make me not gifted ?
actually that is one thing i try to tell the kids, that success is not about intelligence, it is about hard work, personality and class/connections (in the uk more about class/connections). we have always been a political family
i am very aware of the pressure of being top at everything. the most 'successful' ie rich of my classmates were not particularly bright, more so than average, but because of that and hard work did not have a fear of failure