I know what you mean. Sometimes, I feel as though a spectacularly large gin is the only thing that will do That's why we don't keep gin in the house
I go through phases of drinking a lot, then phases of drinking very little. Last night, dh and I shared a bottle of beer. Sometimes, just a tiny bit of alcohol will do the trick.
I have cut down hugely over the past few years, and I think it has helped a lot, posting on here. I think a lot of us have managed to cut down considerably, or gone to AA or sought medical help or just stopped.
If it is a habit you are in of drinking in the evening, it can help to have something else to do, or something the next day which needs your full attention. A change of routine!
For my sins, I have started smoking again. I am losing my mum and I am feeling unbearably sad and confused. Alcohol under the circumstances would make things about a million times worse, so it's the nicotine which is taking the hit. Rubbish, I know.