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Am I going mad or am I right?

8 replies

Rabiaak · 12/07/2025 14:50

I want a divorce and I’m not sure if I’m wrong for wanting one. My husband starts work at 9am and I wake up at 7am to take the bus to get the kids for 8:30 to school but surely he can drop them before school?

he doesn’t pay the rent just the car insurance and maybe a few bills at the end of the month and then lets me swipe his card but then when he has no money left I have to pick up the aftermath of making money while being stay at home with the kids full time up until night time.

all he does is say hello to the kids and no nappy changes, no bedtime stories, throws the duvet and wet towels and no help in the house what’s so ever.

I tell him I’m drained from paying the rent since 2022 and exhausted some days I don’t get to eat breakfast till 2, from laundry and cooking and cleaning to the point where I’ve become fat from stress and I have pcos and chronic fatigue.

also a marijuana smoker him and always out every single day till 1/2am

what shall I do?

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mondaytosunday · 12/07/2025 14:55

Leave, or as you pay the rent, tell him to leave. He’s not doing anything for you or your family anyway.

Livedandlearned · 12/07/2025 14:56

I was married to a similar man and the best thing I ever did was divorce him.

Rabiaak · 12/07/2025 14:57

I basically do everything for him you can ever imagine

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Rabiaak · 12/07/2025 14:58

Even when his cars broken down and stuff I’ve been there

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UrbanFan · 12/07/2025 14:58

Chuck him out. Sounds like a complete waste of space so stop wasting your life on him

raven0007 · 12/07/2025 15:00

Leave. Another also married to a similar man.
He’d sleep on the sofa, leave me to deal with the kids all night ( 3 - one disabled the youngest a new born ) then I’d get up get all the kids ready and drop them to various places before getting to work myself. He would roll off the sofa 15 mins before he had to leave the house. Best thing I ever did was get rid.

Rabiaak · 12/07/2025 15:08

Yeah he calls me fat iswell calls me a gorilla and then when I stand up for myself he tells me I’m a moaner and I’m never happy and he gaslights me he uses all my money but when I want to use his it’s use whatever but when it’s finished I have to replace it

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Rabiaak · 12/07/2025 15:15

I’m genuinely going insane

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