i think they gave dh a personality transplant as well

[Misdee]

he is so short tempered atm. i know its really just because he is feeling under the weather but he is driving me nuts.

Have you gone out on your own yet? Just told him that he is looking after the girls and left?

oh yes.

but i am not well today so am moping round the house as well. we are just winding each other up i think.

i do have to pop out later to get milk and bread. will take my time.

how about...

he takes the girls out, gets milk and bread while he's out and gives you a day on your own in the house?

Have a bath
Go back to bed
MN
Watch trashy tv

he cant drive, its raining and her has caught my cold.

Oh you poor things! I think you do get a bit stir-crazy when you're both unwell and the weather is crap, and you've both been through so so much! Can you go an have a nice bath while he takes care of the girls, and then swap later so he a peaceful bath/appropriate relaxation too?

Or am I being too soft?

this may sound silly but my new tactic to get out of a bad mood is to put on some cheesy cheer up music. see here for some inspiration

steroid rage misdee!V common with post transplant prednisolone use Is he on it?

oh is that what it is NH. yes he is on that steroid. dd1 sometimes has to take it as well after asthma attacks and it makes her quite cranky, i thought that was because she was tired.

Sounds like a bit of both really, the feeling unwell is just adding to it isn't it? I'm not familiar with transplants, is he on steriods for life or a reducing dose?

for life. he is on a low dose, if he goes into rejection then they may be increased.

I suppose then he will learn to live with his mood swings?!! May be worth having a chat with doc?

There is so much expectation of a perfect life after transplant that sometimes you need time to adjust to the fact that it is the same old life with the same old everyday stuff to deal with It is hard to be grateful every day It will take a while to settle down Hang in there you have been a star for him xx

Yes it's easy to be the perfect loving couple when life is in the balance but you have to deal with normality now and there are bound to be times when you get on each other's nerves. You are allowed to have off days you know. Noddy is right.