Weak wall between vagina and bowels

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I'm really sorry in advance if this is too much information but I don't know if this is normal after having two children or if I should see a doctor?
The wall between my vagina and bowels seems to be very thin or weak. If I put a finger inside my vagina I can actually feel the poo in my bowels especially if I'm a bit constipated.
I can no longer push out a poo unless it's really soft. If it's at all solid, when I push on the toilet it sort of bulges out of my vagina instead of just coming out of my bum. I regularly have to put a finger in my vagina and push against my bowels to get anything out.
I can also no longer hold in gas. At all. It's quite embarrassing.
I have a 5 month old baby and this seems to have gotten progressively worse since I gave birth this time around. My pelvic floor has never been great but it's no worse now than before giving birth and I can stop a wee mid stream. I do pelvic exercises when I remember but probably not as much as I should. DS was a big baby almost 11lb but normal birth with no stitches just a "graze" as MW called it so it's not like I tore back to front causing these problems.
Has anybody else experienced this? How did you resolve the issue if at all?
Once again I'm sorry if this is TMI

You should probably get checked by a gp. It sounds more than a graze. I had a tear with stiches and now when i pass gas it comes out the front so I think i should go to my gp - but yours sounds so much worse!

There's no hole in the "wall" or anything and everything feels intact in terms of no stitches needed, it's just like the wall between is very weak and I don't have the muscles there to control anything in my bottom anymore of that makes sense?

Yes, understand what you are saying. It does make sense. Unfortunately I don't have advice other than check with your gp!

It's one thing explaining an embarrassing problem anonymously online and a totally different kettle of fish telling someone in person, and I'll assume the doctor will want to "take a look" which I'm not too keen on

Google rectocele, OP. Then speak to your GP.

It sounds like a prolapse, OP, and it's very common after childbirth (I have a mild rectocele which actually got better over time.) There are treatments for this of varying kinds from exercises to surgery, and your GP will be more than familiar with it in postpartum women, so don't feel embarrassed to see someone as soon as possible.

Oh and there's also a long-running thread on prolapses on the Health board, which would be helpful for you to join

I have been meaning to start a thread about something similar in that I also have zero control over gas since having dc2 7 months ago; it's also very loud now! I'm dreading going back to work I don't know about the thinning wall part of your problem though but doesn't sound great, poor you. I googled about the gas a while ago and it apparently is considered under the umbrella of anal incontinence - nice! I don't know if it means as the muscle weakens over time it will end up that we struggle to control our bowels but it has been worrying me and I've been doing pelvic floor exercises like mad since!

Apparently running can worsen it as it puts the pelvic floor under strain but I think I need to maybe see a physio and get some proper advice. My friend self referred about a different postpartum issue, not sure if that can be done everywhere or not. Perhaps the gp is the best starting point for you though as they can refer to a specialist and a physio. Good luck - the things they don't tell you about having kids eh?

Ah thank you Sealsong! I just googled Rectocele and the article I read- I could have written myself! Definitely seems to be my problem!
Thank you all for your help