I'm 31 and my father wasn't a part of my life. I met him a few times as a child.
My father lied to my mother. He told her that his parents knew and were angry and not interested.
I wrote my grandparents a letter in the mail. It turns out that they didn't know about me. Ooops I didn't know that I was dropping such a big bomb on them.
It turns out that they are still in contact with my father and are going to go and visit him. I dislike this; so you find out that your son fathered a child, lied to you about it, and didn't care for the child and you want to go and visit him and help him paint his house? I'm mad. They said they will discuss the matter with him but that's all they said.
Anyways. I don't know if I want any contact from my father or not but he has siblings. I want him or my grandparents to tell his siblings about the situation. How would you bring this up with them?