About 4 years ago, DP was given a married quarter in Colchester, i was in Uni at the time and didnt want to move as i needed the support of my family and friends for childcare(i live up north), our daughter was just starting pre school and DP was supposed to be getting a nice posting to Harrogate. So we didnt move together, just travelled between the two houses. I'm not entirely sure why he was given the quarter, possibly as a place for our daughter to stay with him? Or for us to be a family? (We have been together 10years)
Anyway, he ended up with a posting in Manchester which suited us all. However, he has just gone back to Colchester and for some reason, we cant get a quarter now. I realise they are for married couples but we cant afford a mortgage because of the rates for first time buyers at the moment and the rents there are very expensive. We have saved up for ages and are just about to go ahead with IVF, so we need to be together and we are skint!!!!
Can anyone offer any advice or loopholes that they are aware of in the system (all hush hush!!) - we are pretty stuck with things at the moment. Cant see a way forward. We really dont want to be apart from each other again, we have been through so much these last two years, he has had major surgery and we have had a rough time going through fertility treatment and bouts of depression and upset. He was married for a very short time before we met but his wife has disappeared and he cant reach her for a divorce! We have tried for a long time!
I really dont know what to do about this situation. Im angry that people in civil partnerships can get a place but not us!
I'm sure some people will think im expecting things handed on a plate but we just want to be together and cant afford it without making huge compromises.
Any Advice would be really really appreciated, thanks