Read this very well put article in today's Guardian

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This article is a worthwhile read!

www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2011/jan/22/afghanistan-iraq-army-families

I think she's put it all down very well. I remember the emotional tension when DH went for his first tour - I felt like an elastic band stretched to its limit, always worried that the slightest emotional wobble would make me snap.

That is almost the exact conversation that I've had today with a friend. Maybe more articles like that would alert the wider public to the realities of being the spouse left behind when a soldier goes away on operations.