The Anxiety Club- part 3!

[blissa]

Couldn't think of a more imaginative title!

Hi girls

I posted a reply on the other thread and now it's too big to reply to, so here we are a nice sparkly new thread!

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Hey yommy and blissa - I've missed you both! How sad am I?!
Blissa - hope you and the dcs are ok - hope you're taking things easy to keep that anxiety at bay.
yommy - hope the job is going well and dcs are settling in well at school.
Am ok - had an awful review thing at uni on Friday that went terribly wrong and I cried all the way home in the car - but on the plus side, I was crying so mucn that I didn't have chance to get anxious getting stuck in traffic! Nevermind - not really important in the grand scheme of things, just hope don't get any postdated anxiety from it!
hugs to all xx

Blissa - I am really sorry to hear about you and dp splitting. Hope you and children are doing ok. As Yommy and Piggymad have said already, we are here for you if you want to discuss or not.

Piggymad - How are you feeling today? Its very fustrating when you have a bad day in work/college. BTW how are the wedding plans going?

Yommy - You are right! This page used to be a hive of anxious activity!!! In a way its a good sign that it has been quiet. No news is good news and all that Hows the job going?

All well here, was starting to feel a bit anxious last week regarding feeling a little bloated, constipated (too much info!)
HHowever, I copped myself on and have started going on regular walks in the morning and I am feeling the benefits of that now! I have also started a pilates class and I am really enjoying it as well. Very hard! Talk later. x

Evening Ladies,

Good to see the old faces back! Glad to here everyone is doing well anxiety wise :o

The job is going well. I do two weeks working 3 days and two weeks working 5 days when my DH is at home. Its 30 hrs a weeks, but the have let me work it that way to try to help with childcare - its soooooo expensive! We have both boys in a full day at nursery on a wednesday. DS loves staying for his lunch and having a play with the afternoon boys and girls. DS2 isn;t so settled, he goes to a private nursery as he is only 1, but he cries as soon as we try to leave. I think he is fine once we have gone its just hard to leave him! Plus i'm not sure I am overly impressed with the nursery he goes to watch this space!

Piggy thats a shame about the bad review at Uni :( hope you have been feeling okay since!

Well done on the keeping fit Kildare! I went for a lovely bog walk yesterday with the boys they were both shattered last night! We have been having such lovely weather the past few days! :o

Blissa - how is your little one enjoying school? Has he settled? What have you been doing with all the free time?

Hey to anyone else lurking! :)

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Hello ladies!
yommy - that's good about work letting you change teh hours. Are you enjoying it? Poor ds2 :( Are you thinking of changing nursery/childminder? Must make it harder for you leaving him if he gets upset :(

kildare - sounding very healthy! How are the walks going? I love walking adn it is my main source of exercise. I've been thinking about pilates but have just been a bit too nervous to try a class - the anxious thoughts about it are winning at the minute but I will get there one day! (I'm also a bit lazy )

blissa - I hope you and the dcs are ok

Been good here - had a couple of vision/dizzy moments but I'm thinking it's just a bit of anxiety and stress with uni etc. DP was away for a week at a family wedding abroad and I coped so well - six months ago I would have freaked out about being in the house by myself for so long and worried about something happening to me, but I was fine and slept like a log Wedding stuff is going fine - 5 and a half months to go!

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Hi Ladies. May I join you please? I have a history of anxiety and panic disorder, but I was doing great after having meds and some hypnotherapy until I had my DS last year and it has all come back with a vengeance! I saw this thread mentioned on another thread, so thought I'd seek it out!

Not too bad today. I think I am so used to dealing with the feelings of anxiety and so I put them to the back of my mind most of the time, but it is so wearing. I had a tooth extracted under IV sedation on Monday, so may be I have some residual drugs running through my system that are keeping me mellow!!

Hi Ladyem - welcome to the thread!
I've never had hypnotherapy but I think Yommy has. Would you get it again?
Well done on the tooth - I would have been to take away with that! Sometimes I find that when I'm stressed, I don't feel stressed, but my anxiety starts to come out and that makes me stressed, iykwim. When I start to get panicky at night that's when I know I'm feeling under pressure.

Hi Piggymad!

The hypnotherapy was a course of about 8-10 sessions and it was hard at times, but the end result was 5 or so years of feeling much more in control and even now when I am in full panic mode, I understand why and I can get myself through it knowing what is happening to me. I would have it again, but the only problem is the cost!! I was very picky with who I went to and ended up going to a therapist who was also a psychologist, so I got a good mix of the two therapies.

Having a good day today. Even managed breakfast!! Usually I am too anxious to eat before 10am, but I was sat down with the DCs at 8.30 eating toast!

Hope you are feeling well today!

Hi ladies - hope everyone's ok?
Have you managed to get some more breakfast down you ladyem?!
Am ok here but the pmt has brought on flashes of anxiety. Had a couple of anxious dreams in the past week or so but have been persevering with nice massage bar before bed to relax me.

Hi everyone.
I've got anxiety disorder and was wondering if I could join you?

I've been having panic for years but it has recently got worse.
I'm mainly bad at work or in social situations.
I'm using propanalol which does help the physical symptoms but not the constant worry.

I've got a bad day ahead tomorrow, being observed at work :(
I'm so worried that I'm going to loose it and start having a horrible panic attack. :(

framey welcome to the thread :)

hope the observation goes well - I hate anything like presentations and meetings etc as feel very panicky and self-conscious in rooms with other people like that.

I'm sure you will be so busy working that you won't have time to panic - and if you do then you just excuse yourself adn try to nip to the loo to catch your breath/have a bottle of water to sip from etc. I find that the menthol scented tissues help calm me down sometimes. What sort of work do you do?

Hope everyone else is well xx

Hello ladies,

Apologies if this is the wrong place...

can anyone point me to some anxiety / mood management self-help tips suitable for a 6 year old boy?

My friend's little lad is 6, and he's quite sensitive. He is normally OK, but he's been having difficulties with a boy at school. He's now having constant tantrums, nightmares, etc. As his mum has a history of bullying leading to depression I'm a bit worried about the chance of this type of thing affecting him long term, and it seems like learning to manage this now would be beneficial for him in future (similar problems seem to come and go with him)

Anyway if you have any relaxation tips, or any suggestions that might help, I'd really appreciate them - my friend really doesn't know what to do. She's at the 'managing to hold a front up' kind of point right now.

thanks for reading...

Hi tha,thanks PiggyMad, it's all over now and I didn't have a panic attack.
I think it really just helped writing down my fears, talking to people really helps :)

Hi framey - glad the observation went well - well done on getting through it without panicking :)

tokengirl sorry to hear about your friend's little boy. Not sure if these tips are relevant, but I would maybe suggest getting him to write down things that are worrying him - maybe early evening (not before bedtime!) and then talk through them and come up with 'solutions' to counteract the problem?
Also making sure he gets some calm, relaxtation time - my mum used to give my and my brother a little massage before bed with some sort of lavender cream to help us relax adn sleep.
Also do they live near a park that they could go to after school everyday for a run around with a football or a family bike ride or something to get out in the fresh air adn burn up some energy? I find that when I'm anxious and stressed I have a lot of nervous energy that I need to jog off!
Another one she might not be so keen on! I've heard that giving children responsibility of a pet helps you to keep an eye on their well-being and gives them a focus. Even something small like a hamster might give him a routine of feeding and helping clean it out etc. Hope some of those ideas give your friend some ideas of whjat might help her DS.

How is everyone else? I'm ok - been doing a lot of motorway driving recently - yay for me !!! We're also getting a little Shih Tzu puppy next month so am very excited about getting him home and getting out in the park.

Hope everyone is anxiety-free :) xx

sorry ladies for coming in when I am feeling down, but I am not sure where eles I can get this down.
My anxiety seems to be so up and down, It just knocks me, I think part of it is tht we have just had a lovely weekend and it lulls me into a false sense of reality. Today I have turned back into a paranoid android, my sister cancelled lunch yesterday because she is poorly and I am totally determined she is fine and just doesn't want to spend time with me, a friend cancelled this afternoon and this just confirms the feelings of crapness about myself, I have sat and paniced for the afternoon about not going to pick up ds (he is on a playdate) because it will give the other mums chance to talk about me whilst I am not there
I have been putting on weight and have convinced myself that I have earlys tage liver failure and gall bladder problems. It has been 3 days since I saw my therapist and have a clear feeling that the phone is goign to ring and she is going to tell me she doesn't want to see me anymore,

I just want to get into bed and cry myself to sleep. I want to be the sort of person people want to be friends with, I want to be a good wife and mummy, I want to like who I am.
Dh is bathing the kids and I knwo he doesn't totally mind but I also know that he wishes I was a bit more here, and engaged with our lives but I just can't, I know I will mess it up.
And here we are again, I am dropping in telling a load of strangers how crap I am, I havent read through the thread, I am being self indulgent and moaning hoping that you will put up with it so I can get it out.

Hey Ladies,

Sorry its been a while. I have been so busly latey with me being back at work now and any spare time I have is spent with DS. Not to mention my youngest DS is a monster who won;t give me a minute to myself

I decided to be good to myself and have a wee day in the house - trying to relax - although my eldest has he friend in and the noise they are making is really getting on my nerves! Not usually this touchy, but have been up since 5 with youngest so feeling a tad tired :(

Only the anxiety front I have been really good lately - almost scared to say it incase I jinx myself! Still have a fe horrible days on the run up to my peroid, but it passes as soon as it starts - thankgoodness!

The job is going really well, just wish it was going to last longer than 6 months. I will be gutted when its over!

Welcome to the new faces :) I'll try n be around more often.

BTP - how are you feeling now?? Sounds like you are going through a really rough patch at the moment. I think the first thing you have to do is start liking yourself again and other things will just fall into place!

Sending Happy vibes out to all :o x x x