blissa - I just don't understand how they can justify waiting over 8 weeks now for a counsellor to call him. I told DH he needs to speak to GP about it tomorrow and tell them that it is beyond ridiculous to have to wait this long for help, and to ask how much longer he will need to wait for these counsellors to call him. I am just stressed, that's all. We managed to sort things somewhat yesterday evening, although it's a little strained. I've told him that we need to set a few ground rules. No more moping about the house and just lazing about snoozing on the sofa or taking naps during the day. He's using them as an excuse to check out and not deal with things, and it's not helpful at all. Not to mention then I am stuck dealing with EVERYTHING.. and I told him I'm not helping him at the expense of my own mental health. I've emphasised that we need to work TOGETHER on things - rather than him escaping and dumping it all on me. I think he needs to get out and do things and feel like he's getting things done... you know, fresh air and exercise and all that. I cannot understand how he can sleep all night and then be drowsy all day... he says he doesn't sleep well, but every time I've woken up (which is fairly frequently lately), he's been snoring away.
We have a huge list of DIY to do on the house, and he always seems to feel more positive after we've gotten some of it done, so I'm pushing him to get some of this done (together actually), even though he can be a right bear DURING the DIY (do ALL men do this? 
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I'm not saying he's doing it on purpose - he's not TRYING to drive me nuts. I think he's just stressed and since he doesn't have any positive coping mechanisms in place, he uses the easiest escape route possible (sleep), not thinking about the havoc he's creating for me.
piggymad no family members of my own - all abroad - his mum (my MIL) is wonderful, and I've actually discussed things with her once or twice when I was really really stressed. She's very non-judgemental and seems to understand the whole "I need to vent, can I talk to you" concept without holding against me anything I may vent about. 
And she doesn't get involved IFSWIM, she just listens, offers support, tea, and hugs if needed. DH's sister tends to lean towards the overdramatic, and I love her but bless her she just seems to overreact to everything, which only seems to make things worse. If I vented to her about DH, she'd turn around and yell at him, whereas MIL keeps her own counsel and doesn't get involved, just offers support. I guess the reason I got upset last night was because DH simply said he called MIL and asked her to come stay with me, without even asking me if I wanted it. Made me feel like he felt I needed a babysitter or something and really made me cross. Irrational I suppose, but honestly - I'm still feeling a bit overwrought easily. Thank God I feel like I'm over the worst of the PND - I was a walking basket case previously! I felt like I was screaming on the inside then, and I KNOW I couldn't have dealt with this AT ALL then. 
Still, I know I could be dealing with this better, which is how I know I'm not 100% there yet, if that makes sense.
Anyway, ground rules (obviously for BOTH of us, not just him, as we both need to follow them) - no moping about, no naps, spend playtime with boys, no arguing in front of children, make an effort to pick up after ourselves and keep up things around the house, and get out and do something outside each day - even if it's just to hang the laundry out, or have coffee at the patio table in morning. It's just too easy to let things slide and not make an effort and fall into bad habits, with the house and with each other. No taking each other for granted, show consideration regardless of how crap you feel.
Don't know what else to do...hoping it will help.
piggymad hope you can get some sleep! I always found if I did my "to do" lists in the late afternoon, instead of later in the evening, I didn't spend half the night wondering what I forgot on the list.