anorak would be grateful for some friendly support

[anorak]

Further to chatting here I have realised that I am becoming depressed. I hope you don't mind my posting this thread asking for some day-to-day support for a little while. It would help me not to feel so alone. TIA xxx

if dh thinks you need an 'actual rest' take one! If you're not sure, you definitely need one! you hardly sound the type to take the proverbial
Now ... go on ... it can do No harm and will probably do you a lot of good

Just seen TV for first time today. More bombs. I want my dh home.

Sweetie- Not what you need when you are feeling unwell anyway, I know. But there are NO casualties apart from one, probably the person who detonated the device. Horrid and scarey but your dh will be fine.

Thinking of you Anorak. Just sent you a short email.

anorak - are you a socialist? Because the maxim "to each according to need, from each according to ablility" seems to fit here - you have been emotionally giving so much to so many people for so long -including your dh, that it's time you took the time that you need. If your dh has offered, please don't feel that you shouldn't get away - if the roles were reversed would you not feel angry if he wasn't taking up your suggestion when both of you know it is what you need?

I do think that when "copers" like you have problems when things have calmed down slightly and they no longer have to be busy coping with other peoples immediate problems. And it does seem atm that your dh and dd and kind of sorted, so don't need your support as much on a day to day level, so your mind and body are recognising that it's no OK to go on a bit of a strike. And they are allowing setbacks (though that's the wrong word) like the job and bombs to affect you now.

My dh was working from home today, and I don't want him to ever go back into central London. I did suggest he take cabs everywhere instead of tubes but he says they take so much longer. I'm just keeping going with the fact that stastictically speaking he is more likely to be knocked over on the walk to the station in the morning than be involved in a terrorist incident, and there is no way I would think of getting up at 6.30amto drive him the 500yards!

Hi Anorak - just wanted to say hi and send you big hugs of support - Im not surprised you feel so low after everything you have experienced - Maybe you should seek counselling? {{{{{{{{{}}}}}}}}}}

Hi Christie. I saw your dh last night and he told me about your friend. I'm so sorry. I told him off as I thought he should be at home with you but of course he took no notice of me as usual!

Yes Pru, that's exactly how it feels - as if I've gone on strike. You've described it perfectly. That's why it feel as if I ought to be able to do something about it, if you know what I mean.

Thank you LRRH too x.

But if your subconcious is recognising it is OK to go on strike, can't you let your concious mind accept that as well?

Here's to Prufrock! Thinking of you today Anorak.

Just wanted to send you hugs and thoughts. I went through a keck time a few years back. Not nearly as bad as your experiences but at the time for me, jsut a bit more than I could cope with. I did go to the doctor coz I wanted to see a counsellor. He put me on the waiting list and prescribed me some pills. I never got to see the counsellor and I never took the pills. The upshot is ...... things do get better. I just stuck my heels in, gritted my teeth and got through it, keeping in mind about never letting anyone or anything break me coz life is wonderful and too short.

You're a very special person. May the wind always be at your back, sun in your hair and love in your heart!
x

sorry you are feeling down. am not on this often these days. essbee has my msn details if you would like to add me.

take care

x

Hellooooooooooo
Sorry you are feeling down hun.
Not spoke in ages

You know where i am

Hi everyone. DH and I have talked and he is adamant I should take a weekend break on my own. I've also decided to take one of the courses Fauve recommended on the other thread (thanks!)

Now I just have to decide where to spend my weekend. Anyone got any bright ideas?

My dh is treating me as if I were made of glass atm and it is making me cry to be so cared for. But then everything does! I looked at a few websites for places to go and when I read the descriptions of massages and relaxation I started up then as well. I'll drown myself if I'm not careful!

hi anorak

i have just come across this.

sorry you are feeling like this. a weekend away sounds like a good idea. how about something you wouldn't normally do? something to give you a buzz. rock climbing? canoing?

then again, maybe something you feel comfortable with? crafty weekends?
i ahve some limks somewhere

Somewhere you can have a dry float (though centreparcs and Canary Wharf are the only places I know of with them)

Why, exactly, are you so suprised that your dh cares for you so much?

You sound like you really need a break, take the opportunity up! I think as mothers and wives we give all the time, and often dont think of what we need in return.

Massages and facials sound great to me! so I would probably look for a health spa.
Although, a couple of months ago I looked into going to a retreat (where evreybody is silent - like on a monastry) you can gather your thoughts - and this sounded great to me!! Gone are my clubbing wild days!
Hope you are ok x

Hi all. Thinking about centerparcs actually. Sounds perfect.

Not really surprised Prufrock that he cares about me. I know he does but you don't expect men to understand things like this really, do you?

I'm feeling heaps better already because I know he's taking it seriously. The support makes an incredible difference.

Hi anorak. Glad you found that website useful I thought it was a good sign that she mentors other life coaches, so must be up to a good standard herself.

A Centreparcs break sounds like a good idea - you can get lots of massages and nice treatments there (last time we went as a family I hardly shifted my butt except for swimming, but had lots of lovely pampering). Massages always go a long way towards setting me to rights.

Morning all. I'd really like to go to centerparcs but dh thinks it's too extravagant. He's right, it is pricey. It's not that we can't afford it it's just that he worries about spending and apportioning it all - to our benefit, mostly.

I was starting to feel a bit better over the weekend. Felt maybe that I'm not really too depressed as it seemed to be lifting. But it seems to be being replaced by a feeling of anxiety. Has anyone experienced this? It's like, for no apparent reason, my heart is racing and my chest feels tight. It's very tiring and makes me feel worn out and frightened. Took me ages to get to sleep last night because of it. I kept almost falling asleep and then coming wide awake as if in shock.

Morning honey. The heart racing thing sounds like I used to feel when I had panic attacks.
Bet this bloody weather isn't helping.
Looking forward to seeing you later X

Yes Kayleigh have just squared it with childminder to collect ds at 1.45.

How long do panic attacks last? This seems to be all the time.

I had panic attacks that lasted anything from 10 to an hour. The longer ones were accompanied by sweating and hot flushes.

Sorry to hear you're feeling low. The racing heart sounds like heightened anxiety to me. This could be sorted out with counselling, beta blockers or relaxation techniques - it all depends on the underlying cause.