anorak would be grateful for some friendly support

[anorak]

Further to chatting here I have realised that I am becoming depressed. I hope you don't mind my posting this thread asking for some day-to-day support for a little while. It would help me not to feel so alone. TIA xxx

me too normally
pretty sober at the moment (pregnant)
drinking's 'sposed to make you feel worse, if you feel low already. I used to shrug this off, but now I think it may be true.

I know ninah but at least I get some sleep. I think the reason I feel a bit better today is because I had a few drinks last night - went to a quiz with dh - and stayed up quite late but had a reasonable sleep. I love going out and get bored staying in and I never know what to drink in the pub if I don't drink wine!

Today I have to pick up DD2 from a school trip at around midnight so no booze.

know what you mean I'm heartily sick of J2O's! and the funny looks I get when I order them
Still have the odd glass of vino and you're right, it's a great way to unwind
that's a late pickup - where is she off to?

She's been to Munich.

Sweetie, am thinking of you.xxxx

wow! the main thing I remember about Munich is the Englishergarten ?sp and the Xmas markets
She will be full of chat then
Can you have lie in tomorrow?

Hi MI!

No I can't lie in tomorrow. DD2 has to go to school and she is bound to be tired after arriving home so late. But it's the last half-day so school says she has to go.

I might be able to go back to bed once I know she's awake though.

back to bed is The nicest
I have two weeks off soon, we go away Wednes to Wednes and the rest of the time is home time
I plan to take ds to nursery at least one day and come back, get into the nice cool sheets, and rest ... bliss
Hope to do some painting as well which I really miss since becoming a mum
Important to do things like that. I know you write poetry, do you enjoy reading it, music? tell you what I heard the other week Mahler's Resurrection Symphony - really uplifted me -apologies if you know it

I sent you some email Anorak. Glad that you are feeling just a "bit" better. XO Sunny

hello missus, i have emailed you, let me know if you dont get it as I am sure i have the wrong address in my contact list even though you are under my favourites

So sorry to read this and your other thread, anorak. You've had so much to deal with in the last five years - maybe it's all caught up with you at once, possibly the London bombings just tipped you over the edge? Hang on in there, be kind to yourself, and keep talking. In the three years I've been on MN you have written some of the wisest and most compassionate posts I've ever read: you're lovely, and there are a lot of MNers here who will help you through this.

yup, you are
off to get ds now
keep in touch
ninah

I can´t play pool with even a sip of beer in me!

Hi Anorak, glad to hear you are feeling abit more perky after reading your threads. Sounds like you need some anti-stress relief times atm

Ah thank you all. No email yet.

Hi anorak, sorry to hear this and I still think it's a lot even if it's over 5 years and not 1! Recognising it is a good thing though.

i will CAT you!

one of my favourite mantras atm comes from Doree - Finding Nemo

Just keep swimming
Just keep swimming
Just keep swimming, swimming, swimming

Have I killed your thread Anorak?

Well, all the best and take care.

Surely things aren't so bad anorak needs a ditzy fish as a role model?

How are things today, missus?

Good morning all. Had to stay up to collect DD2 from a school trip at 12.35 last night and then of course listen to her excited chat for a while before making her go to bed at 1.20. Then had ds wake me at 7.10 to tell me he'd wet the bed. Pulled his sheets off and put him in clean pjs and went back to sleep. Only woke up at 10. Still feel tired but have caught some of it up.

Had a better day yesterday. Today I feel very very tired and lacklustre but not so weepy. Feel a bit out of it actually as if hungover although no booze yesterday.

Have no inclination to do anything at all. Yesterday I did the bare minimum all day and felt okay, but when I was cooking dinner in the evening I started to feel anxious. I'm a good cook and find it easy but it was as if just making dinner for 3 of us was too stressful. Very weird.

But you did it. And that is very important. Along with being kind to yourself and resting when you can, keeping to key routines even when things feel awful is crucial, IMO. You should give yourself a massive pat on the back.

Hope today gets better.

Ditzy etc as she is Dory symbolises the "trickster" mentor. She teaches Marlin through humor. Marlin needs to learn how to not be afraid. He also needs to learn how to relax, let go and believe/trust that disaster isn?t waiting around every corner.

I think its a good reminder to not focus or dwell on what gets us down but to just keep swimming!

Anorak, Dd was watching Finding Nemo last night and it really struck me how wise Dory is in a muddled up kind of way and she makes me remember to cast light and laughter over situations when I feel anxious or troubled.

I had a look for site support to see if anybody else found her wise and found this.... here

Perhaps the out of it feeling Anorak is your body emotions recognising what your mind has discovered. Have you some time today when you could do some relaxation? Deep breathing exercises can really help centre you. Breathing combined with some laughter which has many therapeutic benefits.

Thinking of you. x

Anorak, sweetie, you must be absolutely exhausted. Emotionally, physically and psychologically.

Yes, I think you probably ARE too good at 'coping' - it does sound as if it's time to stop and have a rest. SO much easier to say than do, I know, but it does sound completely normal to be flat out knackered after what you have been carrying for the last few years.

Think of all the things you have carried, and have now put down - so can be lighter. Picture the big heap of 'dealt with ' problems you have mastered, and then think how you can go forward - still with some things to deal with, but not as many as you have already dealt with.

Can you have an actual rest?

Hello
Just checking in - they asked me to do the flowers for graduation day , so much more fun than paperwork but means I have been off here this morning
No wonder you are tired today anorak! blimey, a bare minimum day for me doesn't include dinner, it's takeway or tins! dp has been away all week so I have been living out of tins, bliss.
Sounds like you need a rest first, before thinking what comes next. It's hard to just stop, and not find little jobs that need to be done ... sometimes it's necessary tho

Hello. Papillon, you are so sweet. Haven't seen the film but maybe I should.

Yes, I feel really out of it today. As if coming down from drunkenness when in fact I didn't drink at all yesterday. Fuzzy and slow.

Just been talking to dh on the phone. He also says I need an 'actual rest'. I'm just not really sure if I really need one or if this will pass and I can do without. I do feel a little better than I did earlier in the week. I don't want to take the piss out of my dh, I already go out and go away a lot more than he does.