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Lelarose Desperately Depressed #2

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thatsnotmymonkey · 13/09/2010 23:02

Hi Lela, I hope this is OK, come over here. We will all be here for you. xx

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FortunateHamster · 26/10/2010 20:23

When I was induced I went in on the Sunday and didn't leave hospital until the Thursday, and I had been begging them to let me leave, so she could be there a while (mind you I didn't give birth until 4am on the Tues - a c-section).

madmouse · 26/10/2010 20:37

Well induction on Sunday is likely to mean baby on Monday even if natural birth - so that was only yesterday.

HabbiBOOOO · 26/10/2010 20:49

I hope that the reality was (and is!) a lot better than the anticipation. That's usually the case for me, anyway.

Mummy2Robbie · 26/10/2010 21:57

Thinking of Lela too. I realise that I have blundered into this thread late in the day, and apologise to everyone especially Lela, but also to those of you that have been supporting her for such a long time. I am new to mumsnet, and have never done Internet chat thing and didnt really understand it wasn't really right to look in on an ongoing conversation. But now that I have blundered in, I am really concerned for her and hope she is ok. I think her sensitivity, honesty and tenacity are incredible and that she will be (or maybe already is by now) a great mum, he's a lucky little chap. And I have also been moved by how much care and wisdom Lela's MN friends have shown, there are some amazing women out there. Having blundered in, I don't feel I can blunder out again on Lela, so will be checking in for updates and keeping everything crossed that she and the wee boy are ok. May change my nickname to blundergirl though....

HabbiBOOOO · 26/10/2010 22:05

M2R, personally I haven't seen anything you've posted that will have caused offence - these conversations are open, and so people will look in - as far as I can see you've posted thoughtfully and sensitively, so I really wouldn't worry.

Agree that lela will be a great mother - she's quite something, and I hope she realises that soon.

How about BlunderWoman? It has a certain something, I think.

Mummy2Robbie · 26/10/2010 22:30

Thanks HabbiBOOOO. Hoping some better times are ahead for Lela, but am glad there are so many MNetters who will be there for her whatever.

FortunateHamster · 27/10/2010 13:46

Just popping in to say that I hope everything went well for you and your little one, Lela

lelarose · 28/10/2010 08:58

Hi everyone.

Thank you all for your concerns, I'm sorry I've not been in touch I only got out of hospital last night.

There is so much I could tell you, but will keep it brief. I very reluctantly got induced for a natural/ vaginal birth, but the process really did not agree with me and there were various (very traumatic) complications which led to me having to have an emergency caesarean under general anaesthetic.

So I missed the birth altogether, which is a very strange feeling that I'm trying to come to terms with. I missed the moment when my beloved dp was told he had a son (oh the irony eh), and my memories of meeting him for the first time are really hazy as I was so out of it and still wearing an oxygen mask etc.

I guess what I want you all to know most is this:

I LOVE HIM. I DO. I'm sitting here crying as I write this because hes such a peaceful beautiful little soul and he's lifted the weight of the hideous last few months of my life in so many ways.

I have had a lot of wobbly moments, like difficult feelings about the birth, then seeing the baby girls on the ward and all the pink, and yes I do wish I had a girl, and am shit scared of the future. I dont know how I'm going to get my head round bringing up a boy, but I cant describe it. I wish I could show hm to you all.

And you know what, everyone says they have never seen a baby who looks so like his mother- apprently he's my image.

I dont want to say much more because there is still a part of me that thinks feeling like this cant last, but I just wanted to let you all know I'm a bit shaken up but just for today very grateful for this tiny thing who is through sleeping next to his daddy.

xxxxxx

arcadia96 · 28/10/2010 09:10

That is AMAZING news Lelarose!!!!! So glad you are through it. You love him and that is all that matters. We have all been thinking about you here and waiting for your news. You know you can do this now. xxxxxxxxx

MummyQueenofPutridFleshandGore · 28/10/2010 09:13

Congratulations Lela.Its amazing how the love just comes isnt it.I am really happy to see such a positive post from you.Enjoy every day with your dear little baby.it all goes so quickly.Can we have the weight of him ?

madmouse · 28/10/2010 09:14

Lelarose I'm sat here crying and I don't cry easily

It's been such a journey and here you are saying you love him.

And we will still be here for the difficult days that may or may not follow so don't be ashamed to post feeling bad if that happens!

Will keep looking out for your posts xx

pookstermum · 28/10/2010 09:19

Oh Lelarose, congratulations, you have brought tears to my eyes.

What a wonderful post.

Enjoy your little bundle.

Take care x

mammabelleboo · 28/10/2010 09:27

I've been a constant lurker and have been following your thread for a while, lela and so admire your strength and courage. I am so moved by your post and just want to add my congratulations and send you a hug and best wishes. Take care xx

OooohWhatIfItHurts · 28/10/2010 09:43

Another one here with a tear in her eye. I think you have loved him all along, and that is what gave you the strength to get through the last few months.

I'm delighted for you, huge congratulations to you and your DP.

Oh, and the quiet won't last Wink, but the love will.

GetDownYouWillFall · 28/10/2010 09:45

lela that is so moving. I am absolutely blown away by your post. WELL DONE. For everything you've survived and been through.

You've now got your little bundle and that weight has lifted. What a journey!

Yes you will have ups and downs along the way but I believe the worst is behind you now.

Relax and enjoy your new family

xxxx

FortunateHamster · 28/10/2010 10:45

Oh Lela, you have made me cry. Congratulations to your and your DP on your son.

BalloonSlayer · 28/10/2010 10:47

Oh Lelarose I am so happy for you I am typing this crying.

Much love to you and your beautiful new little family Smile

zam72 · 28/10/2010 10:52

GrinSmileGrinSmile

Amazing news! Congratulions lela on the arrival of your wee man!

serajen · 28/10/2010 11:08

Am tingling all over, congratulations on your beautiful boy, Lela

emlim · 28/10/2010 11:49

I keep checking in and am so,so happy (and tearful!) to hear your news. Big congratulations xxx

pipoca · 28/10/2010 11:59

Wonderful news Lela, enjoy this time with your beautiful baby boy. So so pleased for you. Keep posting even when you feel low. But the hardest part in some ways is over now as he's here and he's yours and you love him, like we knew you would...sooner or later.

xxxxx

thatsnotmyZOMBIE · 28/10/2010 12:43

I am crying too! Amazing, amazing news!

I too had a traumatic c-section, but, that has all faded now. I just love my son.

I am so so happy for you. Enjoy these special moments. You deserve this.

kizzie · 28/10/2010 12:51

Oh I have so been waiting to read this news.

I am so pleased that you are both ok. Tears being shed across MN world today.

I know you have some feelings to work through but you love him - your gorgeous gorgeous little boy Smile Smile Smile

xxx

infin · 28/10/2010 13:21

I think everyone who has followed your threads will be shedding tears today, I am.
Many congratulations and enjoy these first very special days; what wonderful news.

pumpkinmouse · 28/10/2010 13:28

So happy for you, congratulations! Wish I could send you and DS a teddy or something. I'm having a few tears at my desk.