Lelarose Desperately Depressed #2

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Hi Lela, I hope this is OK, come over here. We will all be here for you. xx

Oh Lela that's just wonderful news. Many many congratulations to you and your little family. I am so so happy for you. Well done!!!

OPh, lela. Am in tears. you are so fab. And HELLO! to little chap. So, so happy for you.

But listen - we're in this for the long haul, you know - any ups and downs you have, you let us know, lady.

Oh, I'm so happy and so proud of you.

Oh congratulations Lela, am misty eyed for you as well! Well done you!! And so glad you have fallen in love with your beautiful boy! xxx

Wonderful news, Lela. Congratulations! Hope you recover quickly and carry on enjoying your little treasure. Well done you xx

Thank you all for your kindness.

I do feel highly emotional tonight as its just hitting me I've had major surgery and such a life changing experience and to be honest I feel a bit panickey and freaked out.

Just been in a bit of a daze since he arrived, please tell me this is normal...

oh, god, yes, utterly, utterly normal.

when I had ds - 2nd baby, remember, it took me days of just looking and going, wow, that's it - and that was after a norml pg and delivery. When you feel up to posting more of the story, please do - it's often quite cathartic to tell birth stories, esp if they were difficult.

You are being v normal, lela, ok, so accept how you feel and don't worry. God, you're so fab.

Definitely normal - get dp to give you lots of support while you settle down and focus on your little man...

Oh congratulations Lela another one sat snivelling & crying here

The daze sounds pretty normal to me still hasn't entirely lifted for me 15 months on

Take it steady, given your op - no hoovering or putting up curtains, or owt daft like that!!

So happy for you & so glad you are all safe

My DH used to come home from work and find me sobbing - not necessarily unhappy but just massively emotional from all of the hormones.

Give yourself a while for your hormones to settle down, and then even longer still to get used to the idea that you have brought a new little life into this world. It is mindblowing stuff and I don't know anyone who isn't knocked sideways by it.

And you've just been through the physical marathon that is pregnancy and labour, and major surgery.

And on top of all of that you've had the shittest few months in history. I think anyone in your shoes would have their moments - it is brilliant that you are doing so well. So please don't be hard on yourself, even for a second!

It's such a cliche but do take each day at a time. Make sure that you are eating really well and catching sleep when you can. I highly recommend building afternoon tea lots of cake into your routine. The extra sugar in the afternoon gave me the energy to deal with the evenings.

PS I think this thread needs a new title

Thanks, thank you all, your kind thoughts and wishes are so overwhelming.

I have found the experience of going from being pregnant to having a baby with no labour and concious birth experience quite distressingly surreal at times. But thats a story for another day.

I dont want to be negative, at least I know I am capable of loving him.

Your support means the world to me you lovely ladies xxx

God, yes. dd was essentially made of chocolate muffins, as that was my staple diet until she was weaned. The first few weeks of a new baby are crazy - madly in love (huzzah!!! - so happy this happened for you) and yet full of Oh My God I have to really be a Grown-UP and ouch that's a bit sore, etc etc.

Have you chosen a name?

So normal, It is HUGE what your body has gone through!

You are having a normal mummy reaction.

Can i ask, what was his weight?

Take it really really easy.

It will be painful to pass wind and do a poo for the 1st time. It might freak you out as it will be sore in your tummy. But is NORMAL.

Have you got any Arnica tablets? Take one a day, for the next 4 days.

You are my HERO

Lela, I think it's prefectly reasonable to want to talk about the difficult things - please don't feel that you can't. My sister had an emCS under GA with dn1, and also found it quite strange, I think - it's bound to be strange, especially after all you went through. It's a lot to process, so just let it happen, and talk to us about anything you want to.

Am dying to know about him, though - bet he's gorgeous and cuddly.

God, I just want to HUG you. I really do.

Absolutely normal to feel dazed and a bit panicky - for one, your hormones go a bit do-lally especially around day 3 or so.

Secondly as you say, you've gone from pg to baby in arms in one fail swoop - it does feel surreal. I know I felt with my planned C/s it was a bit surreal (felt so surreal in the operating room with DS1 I didn't even hear him take his first cry). A C/section can be a bit of an odd experience - but in a while life with Master LRose will take over completely and whether you had him natural/c-section/by divine intervention won't seem a particularly big deal. I think it can help some people to have a debrief with their midwife/consultant of what happened so that you can feel a bit more sorted in your head about it (but you might not feel you need to).

Thirdly...you have a baby! (Obviously!) It knocks everyone out of their orbit. It is the most overwhelming time - and feeling panicky is completely normal! After I had my DS1 in the first few weeks I looked at anyone with a baby/kids in a completely new awestruck light - but you get a little routine going and slowly but surely the whole overwhelming feeling gets less and less.

Plus don't underestimate the effects of surgery. It does knock your body for six. And on top of that you need to look after a newborn. Rest up, take the painkillers and know that it might feel pretty sore right now, but every day it gets better and you'll feel stronger in yourself as you heal.

(((((Lela)))))

Oh Lela I have tears in my eyes reading this. Huge huge congratulations to you both. I am so happy for you.Welcome to the world little one.

Good to hear from you again, Lela. As others have said please don't feel as if you can't talk about any negatives here. This is your thread and you can talk about anything you want.

I found my c-section quite hard to deal with (have probably mentioned this before, I'm quite boring on the subject!). I'd been looking forward to natural labour and just couldn't get my head around how I'd needed surgery instead. Going into theatre I was fine because I just wanted the baby to be okay, but afterwards it was harder to deal with in my head, and with the scar too.

I remember the day 3 hormone surge too - I was crying to the nurses begging to be let out - but I was totally aware of the hormones and kept apologising to everyone 'I'm sorry I'm crying, I just can't help it'. Very weird feeling.

Hope all is going well with the little man (and you!).

AAahhh Lela. I am so pleased to hear your news.
Everything takes time and do talk about everything when you are ready.
Are you breastfeeding?

Hey well done the Lela family! So pleased you are falling in love with your boy. It's an amazing feeling, isn't it, looking at your baby?
Bit dazed and confused? A post natal complication known as "mummy brain" which will require cake and chocolate treatment . But absolutely normal, normal, normal!
Have you got diclofenic for pain relief? I got a second weeks worth after my c-section, it did help.
Really glad things are going well, and look forward to more baby news. But don't be brave when it's tough, cos we are all here for then too. X

You are going to be such a great mummy you don't need advice but here is some I have followed re: bringing up boys - feed them lots and exercise them at least twice a day! .

So pleased for you that the birth is in te past and your baby is here. It's absolutely wonderful that you love him already!

We're all still here to work through all the other feelings with you. You are brilliant!

I remember the huge feelings of responsibility coming over me in waves when I became a mum, it's the biggest life changing event and you can't be expected to adjust in such a short time, be kind to yourself, stay in a little mum, dad & baby bubble for a while, you deserve it xxxx