Leaving an activity/class when there is bad feeling

[AntirhinumMajus]

How do you do this?

By phone (tricky we feel a bit [[http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/1142839-I-am-over-reacting-but-how-do-I-deal-with-this pushed out)
By text (rude my mum would be ashamed)
By letter (is it a bit formal)
By email (is it to casual)

We have been going for 4 yrs & no matter how I look at it I am going to be offended or get into an argument & I don't want to

What's the bad feeling about and is it on both sides - just so that we can understand the context.

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Oops sorry

I have no idea why we just don't appear to be wanted

ver-reacting-but-how-do-I-deal-with-this pushed out

Sorry link didn't work

You see if I bump again, someone will cross post again

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I would wait until the next natural break (end of term perhaps) and inidicate that your dd will not continue into the new term(presuming that you do not need to give notice).

Unless there is a stronger than normal relationship that you need to consider then why would you feel that you need to be more mindful of how you depart?

She sounds pretty rude and has "forgotten" to tell you if class cancelled or when events are on, just "forget" to go back.
Honestly you are thinking too much about it, if you want to leave just do so you don't owe her anything.

Thanks guys

I am over thinking it - I hate confrontation

Sorry I went to bed last night

I think you may be over thinking it in the opposite way IYSWIM.

Why leave? DD enjoys the activity and has friends doing it. You can't easily do it anywhere else. You are paying members of an activty just like every other member of the class.

Who cares if the teacher doesn't behave like you are special friends? Who cares (frankly) if she for some reason doesn't really like you? As long as your dd enjoys it then I don't udretsand why you are quitting.

She was rude to DD the weekend before last; while she was rude to me (or DH) I was prepared to 'just get on with it' But she was rude to my DD; which pushed me over the edge

DD asked if she had been bad or naughty and I said no, that the teacher had just gone off us. DD said that only kids do that & she didn't want to go any more.

Just leave then if it is making you all unhappy and uncomfortable.

ok

Yes, just stop going.
Forget to give them notice that you're no longer attending!

don't pay to send your dd to some course where you feel unwanted and rudely treated and dd is getting the message you are unwanted there too. There's no point in it.

From your other thread, it sounds as if the teacher was ok doing the course since she was teaching it together with your dh but doesn't like having to go it alone. You cannot change how she feels (resentful it seems) and you cannot change dh's health situation so he can take it up again

Frankly I'd travel to the other place, even if it is an hour for a better atmosphere.

Do you think it is worth trying to have a chat with her by calling her at home when she has a bit of time?

All sorted now

I phoned 3 times leaving messages then emailed

Whatever

DD starts tomorrow at the new place

I hope she'll like the new place