Is my MIL to be unreasonable?

[TrueOlympian]

I’m engaged to my fiancé for 3 years now and we want to finally organise our wedding. We tried to organise it two years ago but then we had to cancel our plans because my MIL said she cannot take time off work and she can only do in July. We wanted a September wedding. I even invited her to wedding fittings so she can feel included.

I looked for alternative venues closer to where she lives but we couldn’t find a suitable one and it would be annoying as most of our guests would have to travel a long distance. So in the end we didn’t get married.

I have now booked a venue for next year (not July) and my fiance is scared to tell her and he’s stressed about her reaction. I’ve asked her throughout the year why she can’t take time off and the answer was “I like my job, I don’t want to let the team down etc”. So in theory she CAN take time off.

Just to say that for her birthday, we all had to take time off as she wanted a trip abroad during HER work’s bank holiday and nobody complained about having to take time off.

Should I go ahead and organise the wedding?

When mil was interfering in our wedding she found herself uninvited...

I speak as the DIL of an absolutely superb example of a narcissistic MIL.

Who’s getting married here? You or her? Yes she’s his mother but she’s not the one getting married. You are pandering to her and facilitating her. Tell her it’s booked, give her plenty of notice and just deal with the fallout. Do not allow her to act like a matriarch, it’s an incredibly old fashioned approach to family life.

LTB..... Seriously. Or should I say LTMummy's Boy.

Take it from me and the other PPs who know - this is just the beginning of a lifetime of this shite