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What recovery and care needs might follow an elderly parent's minor stroke?

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zurigo · 06/09/2026 10:20

MIL (84), who lives in the US, has been getting frailer and increasingly tottery on her feet over the past five or so years, and two weeks ago she fell at home. She got carted off to hospital, where they did a load of tests and ascertained that she had had a minor stroke. As she fell, she also broke the wrist of her dominant hand. She was in hospital for a week, lying in bed, and has now been discharged to an acute rehab facility, where she is being assessed and given rehab for her stroke-related issues. Her speech is slow and she is in a wheelchair, although I don't know whether she is able to walk at all (I'm going to ask SIL today - all our info is coming via her). Up until we heard about the wheelchair yesterday, I think DH was expecting her to be discharged home in the next week or so, but she lives alone, albeit all on one level. SIL works FT and lives 45 mins away, DH and I live in the UK and literally just got back from a trip to the US, which is why he hasn't already been over. He is planning to visit in the next couple of weeks, once we know more what the ongoing issues are likely to be.

Any anecdotal information about what we expect in terms of MIL's recovery and likely ongoing needs would be really helpful. She has taken no meaningful exercise in years and she is thin and frail with very little muscle, so what is the likelihood of her ever regaining sufficient strength to be able to return home (I know no one can answer this, but any opinions would be good to hear)? She lives in a senior citizen housing complex so there are people who do the garden and attend to maintenance needs, but there is no care provided, it would have to be bought in. She has money though, so that could be arranged. Until two weeks ago, she lived alone with her little dog reasonably contentedly, but since FIL died 10 years ago I'd say she is depressed and she has no friends or social life - she just sits watching TV all day and (to put it bluntly) I think is waiting to die, so her motivation to get her strength back and get home and back to her life is likely to be low and I feel she is much more likely to just give up.

Sorry this is long, but if you got to the end and have any insights, I would be very grateful if you could share them! TIA

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LoafofSellotape · 06/09/2026 10:24

Mum had 6 weeks of free reablement which was care once a day.

We organised a meal service which also did a welfare check.

Home help 2x a week.

An emergency wrist alarm.

Age UK organised a visit once a week for 6 weeks to take her out and about.

LoafofSellotape · 06/09/2026 10:26

Your best bet is to talk to the OT at the hospital,they should talk to you about any home adaptions that are needed.

zurigo · 06/09/2026 12:32

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Lararoft · 06/09/2026 12:53

So it all really depends on how disabled she is & how much she can do (or wants to do) for herself.
Obviously if she is quite depressed too that will have an effect on her recovery so it would really be a good idea to suggest anti depressants; it’s amazing the difference they can make.
She will probably be on other long term meds now to prevent her having another stroke so she may need her local pharmacy to put everything into daily medi boxes. Sometimes the discharging hospital arrange this. So you need to speak to them.
Yes as PP said an OT needs to assess her home for equipment / the correct furniture/ any adaptations to be made; they will come from the hospital. Also they can help arrange appropriate care if carers are needed.
But my experience is from a UK perspective (NHS) not US where your MIL is.

OldJohn · 06/09/2026 14:57

It would be worth asking AgeUK if they know of any similar organisation in the State you MIL lives in.

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