Mum happy in sheltered flat but showing memory decline, should we act?

[TwoFishBlue]

DM has just moved into a sheltered flat. It’s great for her. The move was v stressful (had lived in previous 4 bed house for 40 years).

she is clearly cheerful and happy which is great but I am also wondering if it’s a cognitive symptom (a great one) as it’s so out of character.

She is also is having very obvious memory and function challenges (can’t remember what she ate for lunch; can’t remember what she likes to bake; not sure of the day of the week).

she is safe (and eating) and happy: do I need to do anything? I think it’s age related decline (she’s over 85) and isn’t currently causing problems or distress (and she’s noticed) … my DSis and I have LPA …

thoughts?

Does the sheltered accommodation accept residents with cognitive issues? Many places do not because they can be disruptive to other residents. If not, you will need a plan for the future.

My mother used to talk a good job and she'd claim to be making herself a meal and a cup of tea, but actually she couldn't remember the sequencing. If you've watched her do those things then obviously you know for sure. But bear in mind that while she can do something this week, she may not be able to do it by December. How she is now is the best she's going to be, unfortunately.

So be on the look out for any gaps in what she cannot do, and not take her word for it, because people with cognitive issues don't give an accurate report.

Can she still manage her finances? If not, you need to register the LPA with her financial institutions.

Thank you @catofglory. Finances: so far yes. She does struggle with some things and does ask for help where she needs it at the moment. It’s sobering to know you are right: I think she’s as good as she ever will be and we now have to be vigilant.

She has just moved which will have been stressful for her and can often highlight cognitive issues. I would allow her some time to settle in her new place. Has she been tested recently for UTI? Like PP said, keep an eye on things like eating / drinking / hygiene / taking medication etc. not knowing the day of the week is not an issue in itself, however not knowing when to take your medication, or how to make a sandwich is.

At least she is cheerful @TwoFishBlue which is a big positive.

Just keep a close eye on things and be ready to step in when needed.