Tell us how your Elderly Parents community works

[Eleanoratmumsnet]

What should a new joiner know about this community?

Tell us about the tone, how people support one another, and any unwritten rules, customs, traditions or in-jokes that help make this community what it is.

Reply to this thread to share your thoughts.

Newcomers are generally signposted from AIBU not realising this board exists. Or new to MN entirely because they’re googling about an issue they have with their elderly relative and it’s been discussed here previously. If you’ve read some of the cockroach cafe you will know full well the support that people give and receive every single day.

And I’m not sure why I should need to point this out to someone on a “digital” team, but generally newcomers to an online community, any community, start off by lurking and reading to get a feel for the tone before dipping in a toe to join the discussion. Or if they need/want to join straight away then it’s generally considered good manners to politely introduce yourself first before starting with an imperative “tell me” post without a please or thank you in sight.

New customers of the cockroach cafe generally manage to stagger in and say hello even under the stress they are - I’m sure if you’re doing “research” you can do it too.

So lovely to see some old friends on this thread. 🤗.

I have a mental image of a bright young thing with a clipboard( or maybe tablet cos we’re digital) stumbling in to the caff and finding the good daughters room empty and full of tumbleweed, and then finds the raucous noise emanating from the very crowded bad daughters bench where women are sobbing, raging, or just stealing a precious minute for a cuppa, chocolate biscuit , rant…or search for info on lpoa/
Incontinence pads/ how to get your stubborn elderly to accept care….. whilst necking a v large glass of red wine.

Edited to say

Oh shit, wrong thread.

( whispers) thanks guys 😉
@Eleanoratmumsnet hope that’s clarified things?

What more can I say OP? 😂 . I think you get the drift. It almost reads like the OP is desparately scouting for material for an ill judged research project at a particularly bad university. I graduated from the caff three years ago when my difficult elderly mother eventually dropped off her perch. This board kept me sane, allowed me to say the unsayable, provided an outlet for white hot rage, despair, and stress. And an endless supply of black humour. And useful info. And virtual cake.

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How about that?🧐

I’d like to suggest something MN could do to protect this community - have a policy of not putting a thread from this forum on Trending or Facebook, not keen on Active either - we don’t need judgement from people who have no clue how hard this is.

The posters here are struggling with huge burdens and they try to support each other.

Mumsnet is an enormous site which earns enough money from their intrusive and copious adverts to pay for any additional written materials it requires.

The reason the site is huge is because of all the ‘free ‘content’ provided by posters as they seek support in desperate moments.

Mumsnet is already exploiting this free content and now it wants it’s free/volunteer content providers to supply additional labour in the form of analysis, summaries or guides.

We’re not stupid you know!
Do your own work and stop embarrassing yourself.

I thought that too. And was really confused.

Surely, at the very least, MN staffers should be able to word an OP articulately and with clarity.

Ha! Well op just got her arse handed to her

Wouldn’t be surprised if it was AI generated!

Probably AI. More corner cutting. Unsurprising!