Main carer planning to leave

[Frustrated1974]

What happens if the main carer for someone decides to leave and the person who needs care cannot live on their own?

You get another carer in. Who is organising the care? Is it through an agency? And what duties has this person been doing as "the main carer"?

Is this a spouse?

The person who needs the care will have to go into some form of assisted living/nursing care.

You can contact local social services; report the situation and ask them to undertake an assessment. They should be able to put a package of care in place (from carers going in up to residential care) if there is no-one able or willing to provide care any more. Hope this helps.

This happens with elderly people when their spouses go into hospital or die. They are taken into an emergency nursing home while a place in a regular home comes up. It is quite costly.

Dépends entirely on the specific situation. Who’s the carer? Why are they leaving? What’s the situation of the person needing care ie how much care do they need? Are they at home?

There really isn’t enough information here for you to get any useful replies.

The most obvious response is, ‘hire another carer’.

Apologies for not being clear. It is the spouse that is talking about leaving. They want a divorce and are planning to leave at short notice.

In that case, contact the duty desk at Adult Social Care, the number should be on the local council website.

Keep a note of which numbers you ring and what they tell you.

If you think that the person is at imminent risk (can’t get themselves to the toilet and is sitting in pee, can’t eat/drink or make meals, wandering, high risk of falls) you could always call an ambulance as well. But there is such a thing as crisis care in a lot of areas, may start within 24 hours for a short period. If they can stay out of hospital it’s obviously better.

The person needing care is housebound with mobility issues along with complex medical care.
The spouse apparently was planning to leave before any of this happened and has now reached the end of their tether.
The person needing care cannot
live on their own and would need overnight care.

Does anyone have LPA for the person needing care? I’m assuming that you are a child of the couple in question, are you or any other children willing to step in? - to organise or cooordinate care, not to take it on necessarily.

what assets do they have and what prior contract has there been with social care services?

This did happen to a friend of mine’s husband: his mum moved out at very short notice, leaving her demented, disabled husband at home. She was just sick of it. The son quit his job and moved in, in the immediate term. But the father soon moved to full time nursing care, and died relatively soon afterwards.