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DF in medical emergency at care home

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LaBelleSauvage123 · 28/11/2023 19:08

DF has deteriorated over the last few days and is struggling to breathe. Dr came today and said his lungs sound clear but she thinks he has an upper respiratory infection. This is complicated by dementia and an old neck injury which has affected his swallow. He is on the respect pathway, so no admittance to hospital for invasive treatment. They are giving him morphine/Midazolam but it doesn’t seem to be helping. The home staff seem panicked - they haven’t seen this before - but are reluctant to call an ambulance. It’s particularly bad at night. I am terrified that he’s going to die in distress, unable to breathe. Surely in these sorts of situations, paramedics ( or an OOH dr) can come out and give stronger meds? Has anyone got any advice?

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Houseplanter · 28/11/2023 22:40

I'm so sorry x

Mum5net · 28/11/2023 22:46

So sorry, OP. Difficult for all. Look after yourself, as even though it was anticipated, it’s still a shock.

EmmaEmerald · 28/11/2023 22:51

Much love to you xx

hohohowheniscmascoming · 28/11/2023 22:58

So sorry xx

vipersnest1 · 28/11/2023 23:10

@LaBelleSauvage123, how sad for you, but I'm so glad he was peaceful and you were able to be there. It's a horrible time and I understand however you are feeling. Flowers

MereDintofPandiculation · 29/11/2023 15:56

Sorry, @LaBelleSauvage123 Flowers Glad you were able to be there and that the care at the end was good

MereDintofPandiculation · 29/11/2023 15:59

Just want to assure others reading this that @SkyFullofStars1975 ’s experience is not universal. DF’s nursing home has two nurses during the day for 30 patients, and 1 at night.

SkyFullofStars1975 · 29/11/2023 17:11

I'm so sorry for your loss, OP but very glad to hear that your DF was peaceful and well cared for at the end.

Look after yourself, grief is a long and hard journey Flowers

LaBelleSauvage123 · 29/11/2023 18:15

Thanks everyone for your kind words.

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