DF has had yet another fall and they’re waiting for an ambulance to take him to hospital as he has swelling on his back. He was in A&E all day on Thursday waiting for a scan for hip pain caused by a fall last week. He has undiagnosed dementia and the recent falls and hospital visits have increased his agitation again to the point where he’s very frightened and confused at night and won’t stay in bed. If they put the bed rails up he just tries to climb over them and gets even more distressed. The poor night nurse sounded at his wits end. I could hear dad talking and he sounded really frightened, talking about people hating him. I can’t go in as I have a disabled son who I need to take to his day service in the morning and I know we’ll be in hospital for hours and hours. My sister is on holiday and my brother lives miles away. It’s so, so difficult. Surely there are medications they can give at night that help to calm people? We’ve just been told he can’t be referred for dementia assessment until 12 weeks after his last lot of antibiotics for a UTI, but he’s only just finished a course and gets them all the time! ( He’s worse when he has them but still confused when he doesn’t).