Holy Moly! Wish I'd known years ago there is a US woman called Teepa Snow who gives YouTube tutorials for carers and family members looking after dementia patients at home and in care.
Mumsnetter @CoffeeRunner suggested elsewhere to google the 'gems' system for staging dementia. I did just that and then I found Teepa
Now I've spent a good hour or so listening tohelpful pointers for care staff and how she enlightens helps family members. Wish the care staff at DM's home knew about Teepa's methods.
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