Caring for elderly parents? Drop in for support, hand holding and whatever you need

[thesandwich]

Continuing the long running threads for anyone juggling elderlies and everything else. Loads of wisdom, support and the odd laugh...
How are you all doing?
How is everyone coping with the extra teens with exam challenges?

It's worrying when you can't quite trust the others involved in their care.

Glad she's ok though.

Do you think it is self sabotage? He'd rather resist and argue and go a bit quicker than accept any Interference or loss of autonomy?

I'm a bit impatient. I dreamt last night that i told DM exactly how unkind she was being, and that I wasn't going to stand around and be insulted.

What would he say if you tell him it's accept it or risk lying dead on the floor for days until he's found?

Oh worried you must be on your knees. You have done so much. I remember the words of the ot who helped sort dm out after her hip repalacement.... don’t get too involved. Hard to rationalise but please don’t put yourself at danger for someone who sounds beyond helping. You have put things in place. Look after yourself.
And pickle- sounds like you need a break too.🌺🌺

Oh Worried - that's hard. I wouldn't be moving that skip either though. DHs grandfather kept insisting he was ok to drive right up to the end, we ended up removing the spark plugs so he couldn't start the damn thing.

Oh worried I am so sorry. After everything you are trying to do. You are wise to leave him to it. And do something for you. Please find a way to do something nice for you. and

Glad the is helping!! Sorry you dB is being so useless. Speaking to the gp sounds a good plan- worth writing it down to go on record?
Good luck.

Definitely speak to the GP. The hospice staff alerted Mum's GP that he needed to keep an eye on her, as they found her behaviour somewhat unusual. He's had her in fortnightly since.

It's ok to shout at him. Possibly depending what you shout! Sometimes we protect people from our thoughts and emotions, more than we should.

Have some more . Though admittedly it's a little early for both. But needs must when the devil drives, as they say! Cheers!

Hello everyone. Not much to report here, so I’m reading along, often nodding in recognition and sending supportive thoughts.

we're going to need a new thread soon I think? anyone clever enough to start it and link to this one? (I could start but links beyond me!)

Went to see DM last night, as I do most nights, she is beginning to feel better which is great. OTH in the 25 mins I managed to stay she did not ask ONE think about me/what I'd been up to/kids etc. I deliberately didnt volunteer any info as was waiting to see what would happen. Not sure what to make of it quite honestly. obviously I had before during and after.

Caring for elderly relatives? Pop in for support, a hand hold, advice, whatever you need.www.mumsnet.com/Talk/elderly_parents/3186530-caring-for-elderly-relatives-pop-in-for-support-a-hand-hold-advice-whatever-you-need

Can you check it works, Yolo?
If so, I've learned something new today!

New Thread

Hi Gerbil, how did you do that? I can post the thread, but not the clever 'new thread' link!

Pickle, you put two square brackets at each end of the link to make the link interactive. If you leave a space after the address and put in another word, it displays the word interactively instead of the link!