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Elderly parents

Dm near the end.

42 replies

ZaZathecat · 06/02/2017 17:04

Dm was starting to get used to the home about 6 weeks in, was confused but fairly cheerful and liked some of the carers. But on Saturday night she collapsed and was sent to hospital where a CT scan showed a massive bleed in her brain. She didn't, and will not regain consciousness. She's just being kept comfortable in hospital while we wait for the end.
The first night I stayed next to her bed hoping to be there when she died, but realised after that it could be days or even more than a week. So all I can do is visit regularly and try to carry on as normal in between. It's horrible. The hospital staff have been very kind though.
I just wanted to let that out. I'm playing it down to my teens. They know she's in hospital but think it's just more of the usual. No need to make them suffer too until it's over.

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MockTurtleSoup · 09/02/2017 16:49

(((Hugs))) condolences to you all Flowers

picklemepopcorn · 09/02/2017 16:49

Oh Zaza. Flowers
It's healthy to be able to grieve with your family, don't be afraid of it.

Noitsnotteatimeyet · 09/02/2017 16:50

I'm so sorry ZaZa - it's always a shock no matter how long it's been inevitable Flowers

WingMirrorSpider · 09/02/2017 16:51

I'm so sorry Flowers

CMOTDibbler · 09/02/2017 16:51

I'm so sorry ZaZa Flowers Be kind to yourself - I know theres a lot to do right now, but take some time for you

Badders123 · 09/02/2017 16:52

I'm sorry zaza 💐

thesandwich · 09/02/2017 17:13

I am so sorry zaza. You all have been through so much. Lots of support here if you need it. Be kind to yourself and take things gently- let others take the load. Flowers

whataboutbob · 09/02/2017 17:35

My condolences. A good cry can be quite cathartic, I had a big crack up last Sunday and felt a bit better the next day .

ZaZathecat · 09/02/2017 17:37

Thank you all.

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TheseAreTheGoodOldDays · 09/02/2017 17:38

Thinking of you and your family OP Flowers

laurzj82 · 09/02/2017 17:42

Thinking of you. Lost my mum in Nov so know how you feel Flowers

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 09/02/2017 17:47

So very sorry ZaZa, it's an incredibly difficult time, take comfort in your family, and know you did your best for your Mum. 💐💐💐

VintagePerfumista · 09/02/2017 18:02

Much love over t'internet Zaza Flowers xx

Needmoresleep · 10/02/2017 10:33

I am sorry. I hope the next couple of weeks go well and that you are able to properly celebrate your mother's life, not the last and difficult days. And that you can then have a good rest. Thank you for your company and support.

ZaZathecat · 10/02/2017 14:57

Thanks for the support everyone. I think I'll be ok, give or take howling my eyes out from time to time. Objectively, it was a 'good' time for dm to go, before the dementia became advanced. I hope to be back on the Elderly parents board to offer support to those still going through it soon.

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FadedRed · 10/02/2017 16:57

So sorry for your loss, Zaza. Flowers

thesandwich · 10/02/2017 17:21

Take care Zaza and look after yourself.xx

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