Hi all i have not posted for ages.
( sorry this is abit long)
My ds was the boy who had his head dunked into a flushing toilet by a nursery nurse when he was 2.
Well nothing came of that no one wanted to help even the police and soc serv managed tol cover it up and every soliciter i have gone to says the same that they cant do anything...
He is now nearly 5 and in reception at school, and i am at a loss at what to do, about 3 or 4 weeks into the term he bit his class teacher.
Obviously we were mortified and we went to see the headteacher who was very reassurring that sometimes children do things like this and that even her own child had done this when he first started school.
then he hit another teacher, he was excluded for 1 day, it then got worse and he was having outbursts all the time and being sent home all the time ..he has learnt that if we wants to come home he just has to be naughty!!
The school involved CAMHS just before christmas and the school decided that he should come home at lunchtime, and after xmas he would be allowed back in school at lunch. we were concerned about add etc.. but after xmas he calmed down and was starting to calm down and the school basicly admitted that they had over reacted in the heat of the moment. we had a discussion with the camhs team and they suggested him attending a dinosaur school programme that would enable them to monitor him and try to get to the root of the problem, so we took him along and they managed to discover that he was by all accounts a normal 4 yr old, he has a bit of difficulty sharing and was sometimes quick to copy what others were doing but they are adamant that he doesnt have add.
Three weeks ago we were called in to pick him up again, he had been throwing stones and was being exluded again the headteacher refused to talk to us and ds was adamant that another child was throwing stones at him too. The head wanted us to go for a meeting on the day he was alloewd back at school and the secretary said if we could not attend then ds was not to go back until we could attend the meeting.
To try and cut a long story abit shorter we went to the meeting and were made to feel like criminals the things that we suggested a while ago were never implemented and to us it seemed that the star charts had stopped no one was telling us anything so we assumed all was ok.
I have talked to ds about the things he does but he dosent know why he does them and he forgets within 10 mins what hes done.
He had a great week last week and had loads of well done stickers and didnt hurt anyone ( the week he threw the stone he also bit a boy and scratched another).
I dont know what to do he tells me that other big boys tell him to do nast things but the teachers wont have it and tell us that he is the only child who does this.
Yesterday he threw a large stone he said he wasnt throwing at anyone he just picked it up off the path and threw it away but one of the teachers said he threw it right at her .. i dont understand why he would do these things he is good at home (no angel but not all 4 yr old boys are)and has been excluded again.
He is being seen by the senco and has some time with her every week as he has troble sharing and does have an iep, but what good is all that if they are just going to send him home all the time, he has no problems with lessons and is usually good in the class, i feel that excluding him from school all the time wont help it isnt a punishment to him and it certainly wont help him interact with the other children...
please please help i am going insane again..