Hello! My capable new year 9 child is distraught to be in middle set of science.
Despite being bright and able, her teacher last year put a huge amount of pressure on the kids around 'reaching the top set' and stressed how limited the number of places there were in that, and as she has always struggled in tests when under a lot of pressure, this led to panic attacks and half completed papers in several of the tests due to this.
Exams where she was not stressed, she sailed through. She even got 97% in the most recent end of term test and was hopeful that she would be in the top set and can't understand it. The teacher never came across as particularly encouraging nor understanding of her issues.
This has on and off been an issue in some other subjects as well but she's made top set in those, and none of the exams or subjects have seemed to stress her out like science.
Whilst we have told her it's not an issue to be in middle set, and said we are proud of her, and it doesn't matter, she's distraught and convinced that she could be in the top set. I believe there's no scope to move up or down until the end of the year.
I want to be supportive and I believe that she could thrive in the top set with a different teacher (she did not have these issues in year 7 and did brilliantly).
Is this something we can raise with the teacher? Seems such a shame that she might be missing out due to her anxiety and panic attacks when we both know how capable she is. Additionally she is worried it might limit her ability to do triple science. She's always been an overly anxious child but also very bright. I think as she matures it will get easier for her to cope with pressure and with science it seems an issue only since last year.
I don't want to be an annoying parent, but neither do I want to see her limit her achievement further down the line when I know she is capable and this is probably linked to the pressure handling rather than ability. Should I email her new teacher? Ask about it? Is that a fair ask? Will they think I am a pain of a parent?
We do plan to practise a lot at home as well.
Thanks.