Getting a certificate for being good. But only if your usually on the SAD SIDE.

[charliecat]

What message does that send to my dds who are never on the sad side?
Misbehave, chat, poke people for a week...then stop...and you will get a certificate. Arse

\they should ALL get a sticker if they're well behaved, DS's classes have the stikers buta lso they get good class awards (ie the responsibility of everyone), a petal each time, 8 petals = a disco at lunchtime (basic affair with a ghettoblaster)

'On the sad side'? Arse to that comment. Some of our kids have far more complex needs than that.

absolutely SO TRUE of our primary

My dd (9) said today that she's going to start being bad because it's the bad ones that get the rewards. What's the point, she says, of being good when no-one ever notices you.

Ds sussed it in reception - he told me all you had to do was be lazy for a couple of days then work hard again to get Star of the Week. I told the teacher who doubted that 5 year olds had that much insight. Nedless to say he's now at a different school!

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the 'happy' side should get rewards all the time and 'sad' side should then aim to get these rewards by being better behaved..reward all the 'good' children first..tells them they should be 'bad' then 'good' to get treat??!!

now this REALLY me off.
i introduced a system when I was hea dof year (huge middle school) to reward those who did everything that was expected of them all of the time but were being overlooked.

the ;sad side; to use a horrible term, should have smaller reward systems which lead up to a normal reward imho

i have to say, with two normally well behaved dd1 and dd3, when dd2 - our stressy difficult one - was good last week we totally overdid the praise and treats, we were just so very relieved to see her behaving for once. i can see why schools do it.

Further discussions with dds.
DD2 whos 5 said I wonder if I will get a certificate tommorow, I said hmmm what are you getting certificates for, she said If we are good or working really hard at our work...I said well you will surely get one tommorow then, No she said its only if your normally on the sad side
dd1 whos 8 (who has been on the sad side ONCE in 4 years for retaliating and kicking the class bully) said Yeah...like Dale he gets a certificate for staying off the sad side for a week.
Where is HER incentive to behave????????????????

Sam gets a sticker every day he'snot on the sad side, he has SN

It just isn't that simple

And I wouldn't be persuading my kids to be using that phrase either.

Parping myself now

Ooh, I have vivid memories of being pissed off about a similar scheme at my school. More than 30 years later it still rankles!

Ok, should I mention to the teacher that dd has caught on?

ds has always got more stickers than dd, but he is a much slower learner and needs more support. She always knew she was doing well because she was raching bloody miles ahead of everyone else in the class. Bless him, ds trys so hard and he is miles behind everyone else. Good on his teacher for keeping him switched on to learning, says I

Peachyclare, I'm with you, it isn't alawys a clear cut thing.

I know its not a clear cut thing.
But my dds are good kids.
And they are being send home empty handed.
And they are aware of the fact that another child, who is not as well behaved, is being sent home with a certificate for behaving well.
Thats not fair.

saw a normally disruptive boy getting a housepoint for remembering to raise his hand when he wanted to ask a question which rather annoyed me. There are loads who frequently raise their hands but never even get to speak let alone get rewarded for it.
Yes, reward the ones who are making an effort to be good but please notice the other ones too.

Sorry but Sam is a good kid too. Just struggles.

yes she should be rewarded equally,that's only fair. but don't deny the other kids their chance as well.

They are not being rewarded equally. If they both came out with certificates that would be fair. This isnt.

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I suppose that the reward is for rather than anything else.

All schools do this.

As the mother of 2 conformist girls, I know behaving well all the time doesn't get you stars/stickers, etc but I have told my 2 that its harder for some children to follow the school rules.

Is very unfair in my opinion.

I just try to encourage my children to behave well and work hard for the intrinsic benefits rather than for the stickers that the school gives out.

I'm not sure that stickers are really as motivating as all that, at least as far as my children are concerned. They usually can't remember what they got them for.

double arse. its shit.

and i dont know as a parent if my kid actually deservs the praise they are getting at school or its becuase they have been complete shits for the past term

which ( lol @miself) i have just realised - i have the living room door covered from top to bottom with good work/behaviour slips.
now
does this mean that my kids are actually good
or am i boasting about what shits they are?

There is a Biblical precedent for it - the parable of the prodigal son - which always used to rather annoy me when I was a kid!