Urgent - is it reasonable to ask?

[Katymac]

The school discovered yesterday that DD has been being bullied for the last year

Is it reasonable to ask what steps they are taking today to protect her before I leave her at school?

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm not being overprotective or too soft on her then?

Yes, absolutely.

Just checking......as I'm not a happy bunny

Certainly not, ds got bullied and we took him out of school, the school then begged us to let them sort it out and they stopped the violence and threats, but not the name calling and social isolation.
I think it helps kids to know a school is working to sorting things out for them. However we left the school following a house move and ds has been happy as pie ever since - he is now 12 and at secondary school.
Good luck hope dd is ok, I know its been an horrendous worrying year for you - I was in bits with ds, so very sad for him. As a parent you fela lmost powerless.
Also could get dd to karate ? : I regret not teaching my ds any self defence skills. He has had a broken arm from being pushed over (last Oct not at school) and got punched in the nose by a neighbours son a few weeks ago.
DS is now in karate and loves it!

It's the name calling and social isolation

So should the bully be on playground arrest?

Should DD be confined to the library (her idea of heaven)

Or has anyone any good suggestions?

you need to talk through with the teacer some knd of strategy for getting your dd more socially included - the teach could assign your dd and the bully to work together on a project, or to tidy up, feed the pet, collect the books. something that comes with some level of percieved authority by the other kids. that way your child isn't being seen as the teachers pet and your dd and the bully may become friends. you need to arrange to have a meeting with the bullies parents, once the kid has had a bollocking for embarrassing the parents maybe she will turn around.

then maybe you could invite some of the friends over to your house for tea

or set up a homeork circle

my dd was bullied in junior school. i w2as so severly bullied throughout my school life i forced her to stand up for herself. she did. and became bestfriends ith the bully!

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