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I can’t stick to a diet should I consider surgery?

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12345gl · 13/12/2019 23:18

I write tonight so disappointed in myself last month I worked hard to loose weight I lost 6lbs by doing a low carb healthy diet plenty of fruits veg & fish also 10k steps a day felt great but ended up binging after 2 weeks it just seems every diet I do I just cannot stick to it I have tried slimming world x3 , slim fast, keto everything you name it and still I end up just loosing will power and putting the weight back on :( I am 28 5,4 and weigh 15 . 9 stone I have always struggled with my weight I’m so fed up of this obesity cycle I’m due to go back to work in January and will be gutted if I have to go back being huge I work for an airline and just know I will have layovers avoiding the beach or flight after flight being the fattest crew member on board. To make matters worse due to a very rough year I am living with my mum who keeps buying chocolate and sweets I just cannot resist the temptation I feel so stuck

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Costacoffeeplease · 13/12/2019 23:49

Surgery isn’t a quick fix, as I understand it, you have to prove you can lose weight before you’ll even be considered, and your ability to eat normally will be changed forever

Is your mum not supportive of your healthy eating?

Costacoffeeplease · 13/12/2019 23:50

Also, don’t see one binge as the end, start again the next day

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12345gl · 14/12/2019 07:21

Thank you I will keep that in mind and no she’s not other than she will comment that I am looking good when I loose the weight but she is obese herself and has type 2 diabetes but still eats chocolate/sweets .. I have asked her to hide the sweets which she sometimes does but she gets funny about it.

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Weenurse · 14/12/2019 07:32

The problem with surgery is there is a huge failure rate as it does not address the reasons for the over eating in the first place.
There is an online support group that may help. I just don’t remember the name.
Maybe you could google it.
Good luck 💐

toomuchfaster · 14/12/2019 07:34

Watch My 600lb life. Surgery is not the easy answer you seem to think it is.

seven8nine · 14/12/2019 07:37

Out of sight out of mind, it sounds like the chocolate and sweets your mum buys are primarily for herself. I am guessing you are lighter than your mum hence her telling you she looks good. Try not to let her emotionally sabotage you, but it’s understandable how much harder it is living with her. It makes sense you want to look and feel healthy when you get back to work as cabin crew and hopefully when being away from your mum will help.

I sense your determination in losing the weight so I don’t think surgery is the answer.

You need motivation and support, on Instagram there are lots of weight loss, exercise... supportive accounts that can help. I attach a couple of screenshots as an example, but there are lots out there.

IMHO losing weight isn’t about depriving yourself of what you like it’s about eating less of it (much less if it’s junk) and fitting in regular activity.

You can do it! I hope that helps.

Butternutsqoosh · 14/12/2019 07:38

It's hard isn't it? I'm crew too ... does your airline have a Facebook page for weight loss? Mine does and we all support each other on there. I need to lose nearly two stone aswell, my uniform is getting tight. Pm me if you like and maybe we could support each other? Maybe a whatsapp chat to hold each other accountable?

seven8nine · 14/12/2019 07:39

Here are the screenshots

ShippingNews · 14/12/2019 07:39

I had the surgery and it worked for me. People can be so negative about it, but it does work.

Gabrielknight · 14/12/2019 07:43

My sister used to be you, same hight but 16stone. She's just completed round 2 of the elite transform programme and is now 3 stone lighter. It's a restrictive diet n gym sessions n if u complete it you get your money back. Shes never felt better

KrampusTime · 14/12/2019 07:45

You still have to stick to a diet before and after surgery.

KellyHall · 14/12/2019 07:51

^^ As Krampus said, you have to stick to a very strict diet both before and after a weight loss operation so your head has to be in the right place or it won't work.

Don't give up after a lapse. I found something to counteract it, I told myself for every treat I had, that meant an extra Wii workout or short jog or couple of lengths in the pool. That way, even if you do overindulge you'll get more exercise too. Eventually I felt much better after the exercise than I did after eating a load of crap!

If you put your mind to it, you can accomplish anything. I believe the first step to achieving anything is believing you can do it.

madcatladyforever · 14/12/2019 07:59

I've had binge eating disorder for my entire life. I was heading for 20 stone at 5.5 so I went and had a gastric band.
I physically cannot binge eat now without throwing up. It's been incredibly tough because my eyes have always been bigger than my stomach and I've spent a lot of time throwing up, but now I've lost so mycg weight and have completely changed my eating habits because I've had to. I'm 57 and thought I'd be fat forever.
I got mine on 0% credit.
However it's really important to follow your surgeon's advice, a band was ok for me but most people need a bypass. Don't just go for the cheap option if you decide this is for you.Consider all the options.
Also if you have a bypass you'll be on drugs/injections for life. Not so with a band.

NabooThatsWho · 14/12/2019 08:02

After surgery you have to stick to a strict and controlled way of eating. If you can’t do that now, I wouldn’t get the surgery.

lljkk · 14/12/2019 08:20

Be prepared to spend a lot of time throwing up, I guess.
Have to take vitamins for life.

Missworldxox · 14/12/2019 08:53

That will be loverly il inbox you shortly x

dancingbadger · 14/12/2019 09:00

Your are still very young and you know you can do it as you lost 6lb in a month which is amazing! I would see surgery as an absolute last resort. I was in a similar position to you in my 20s (about 4 stone overweight) I was largely sedentary in an office based job ate out a lot etc. I managed to lose a lot of weight on weight watchers, not an advert it just worked for me, I think it was knowing that I would have to be weighed in front of other people was enough to keep the will power going.
After I lost my first couple of stone I had more confidence and got into running which I still do and love. I'm now in my 40s with 2 kids and kept it off (size 10). I still run/ gym etc a lot and genuinely enjoy it. I listen to my stomach now so just eat what I want when I want but don't really enjoy feeling too full so I don't binge. I don't drink alcohol though it's extremely calorific and destroys will power and feel a lot better for it.
It is possible to do it yourself, you've already made the start don't give up because you've had a blip. Don't let your mothers bad habits lead you astray, it sounds like a good diet would benefit her too.

Missworldxox · 14/12/2019 09:01

Thank you all for your comments and sharing your experiences I cannot afford surgery right now anyway. I’m going to try hard to continue my healthy eating and try not to let the occasional binge ruin my hard work like admittedly it does .. Its hard because also I smoke and it does help suppress my appetite but when I try to stop I eat more I also get depression and anxiety and am on medication which adds to my weight battle as I used to not be able to eat when I was anxious but I now emotional eat 🙈 just a mess really ! But I know I am the only one who has the power to change it I’ve got just over a month to sort myself out feel healthy your comments have helped motivate me thanks

Frankier88 · 14/12/2019 09:14

OP, I am in a very similar boat, weigh the same as you and I'm also struggling.
I've been calorie counting since July, have done low carb, I exercise loads but I just seem to keep undoing all the hard work. It's so hard and it's making me miserable, it feels like it's taking over my life!
So you are not alone!
I get married in October so that's a big incentive for me, but I also want to be healthy for my family.
Get in touch if you want a diet buddy!

VallarMorghulis · 14/12/2019 10:00

Hi OP, have you tried intermittent fasting/the 5:2 diet? It's when you fast two days per week and eat normally the other three. It's the only diet I've been able to stick to long term, I've lost 15kg over 2 years. It doesn't seem much but I not super strict and don't like counting calories. People who are more careful see much quicker losses. There's a lots of threads on here about it.

Fauzia · 14/12/2019 16:39

Intermittent fasting is brilliant. Also try the fast 800 diet which probably for you will help you shed the weight a little faster and may keep you motivated. Coming from someone whos weight has yoyo'd (at 5ft the heaviest I was is 14.7 stone). It really is a matter of will power and not just looking slim but knowing your inside is healthy too. Its taken me over a year to lose 3.5stone. Im still categorised as obese but i'm staying focused on the end goal of being healthy. I would recommend doing some exercise too as you will shed faster. But no matter what I say.... its upto you to stay focused. Surgery is not a good option. Its not going to chage your eating habits so junk will still enter your body and the fat around your organs will remain.

TheOrigFV45 · 14/12/2019 19:48

Maybe this should be moved to the weight loss board?

Someone with an eating disorder (the OP or others) won't benefit from all the diet experience in this thread.

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