Sorry for the long explanation.
Me and my partner already have a beautiful girl. That my partner carried with her egg and our chosen sperm donor via IVF.
After that cycle of IVF and we got pregnant we didn't have any straws of donor sperm left. Being caught up in the new emotions and rollercoaster of events following a new born we didn't buy any further sperm nor did we think to check. My partner struggled with her mental health and has only just now started coming round to the idea of having baby number 2. With one problem, the donor sperm we used is no longer active and we do not have any donor sperm left. We do however have frozen embryos with our clinic, with my partners eggs. My partner is strong minded that she wants the children to be biologically connected by the donor but this seems to no longer be an option. I would carry next but I really would like to carry my own egg.
We are knocking heads and can't agree as my partner wants me to carry her embryo and I would like to look for a new sperm donor and carry my own. AIBU?
She keeps mentioning about how important it is for them to be biologically connected but I don't feel the same maybe that is because my daughter is not biologically connected to me and I don't see her any less as my daughter. I can't explain why I feel it is important for me to carry my own, but it is something I would prefer to do. I would carry her embryos but would want to do this after I carried my own.