Husband wants a divorce, should I still do everything at home?

[Gingerbread987]

My husband has told me he wants a divorce.
Up until now I have been cooking every meal, doing every bedtime, getting up in the night, on the mornings with our child - the vast majority of the washing, housework etc etc
I feel like this is ‘wife work’ which he should no longer benefit from….but I have been a SAHM since the birth of our child and he gives me a monthly allowance which generously covers all household bills and a little extra for me. So is he still entitled to all this help? If not, how would you broach this without him just saying ok no more money then?

That makes sense. Yes, taxes can be a complex area. Good luck.

Just be aware that alimony/spousal maintenance aren't really a thing in this country. I was very taken aback by that when my marriage ended and as a SAHM was in something of a panic. Luckily I managed to secure a job and have thrived career-wise since then, but I still remember that sense of absolute dread and fear.
Good luck to you.

Buy items for the children for the next couple of years.
Coats.
Jumpers.
Underwear.
Make sure you have a decent pair of warm boots that will last. And a good warm coat.

If you have things you want to keep safe remove them to a friend or family members house today (he may not take or damage it but it’s better somewhere where it’s safe). This could be old photos, your grandmothers necklace, pictures the kids drew.

If he is unaware of what is in the airing cupboard etc then remove a decent bedding set / towels and store with a friend. Same with crockery and pans and screwdrivers/tools. Check the attic and if you have anything useful that he forgotten about have a ‘clear out’ so stash with a friend.

Let friends know and they may put aside any thing they are clearing out (pans, pots, cutlery etc). Better to store and not need then have to buy if the shit hits the fan and he becomes hostile.

Buy extra at the supermarket and stash away at a friends. Washpowder. Shampoo. Food basics. Cleaning products. Olive oil. Herbs. If you can build a stock cupboard over the next few months this will help when you move out. Still take your half of what is in the cupboards but do it knowing you then have a good base (maybe duplicates). Do this by branding down- decant into old packaging if you need to (cereal/ketchup).

Basically focus on getting your new life ready by creating a new house cupboard at your friends to reduce costs. Definitely tell people as they may add to it instead of sending their things to charity. (I gave a tv to a friend in a similar situation - it was 3/4 years old but it was a start).

Thank you for replying, that’s really good advice