Husband has left and I do not know how to cope

[EngravingMomma]

My husband told me he had fallen out of love with me just over a week ago. I begged him to try again and he agreed. He didn't put any effort into making things better and yesterday he told me that it isn't working and that he was going to leave. We had a big row last night yes this morning he came on a bike ride with me. When we got back I went for a shower and when I came out he was packing his bags. He has left and I'm heartbroken. I just don't know how I'm going to get through this and rebuild a life

Offer his 50/50 for the children…

where is he moving?

I’m really sorry, you must feel like the earth under your feet has been swept away. Do you have children? Is there another woman?

Do you have children? Ages? What’s your housing situation?

You don’t know how you will get through this a build a new life RIGHT NOW. But in time you will - of course you will, humans are remarkably resilient.

but now you are in shock, grief & your world has turned upside down. Just remember this is a very
Normal human reaction to your husband leaving you.

so sorry. Do you have family and friends to support you?

I was here too. But once the shock subsides you’ll be ok x

you have some catching up to do. He was a few steps ahead.

I'm so sorry op. Be prepared for another woman to show up. There's always another woman.

@EngravingMomma how you doing today?

Thank you for all your replies. He has been left for a week now. I find myself in floods of tears everyday. I still can't eat or sleep properly. I just don't know how it is going to get better

Are you still seeing him @EngravingMomma

its tough those first few weeks.

Have you told people yet? And got some support in place.

I can assure you that IT WILL get better. Next year this time you will be feeling so much better. So much stronger. It just takes time.

All of us are here if you need to vent.

Meanwhile, dry your tears and start thinking about getting legal advice. It’s big girl’s pants time.
Get out of the house as much as possible. Get fresh air every day.
Gather and photocopy important documents, financial ones etc.
Lean on friends and family if there are any nearby.
If you feel inclined, ask yr GP for a short course of a mild sleeping tablet. Rest is so important.
When the dust settles a bit, maybe have some counseling?

Meanwhile, we’re all standing by waiting for OW to come out of the woodwork. Brace yourself.
Sending a big Mumsnetty hug.

Please go and see your GP and get help - antidepressants and anxiety medication (this especially) really helped when my husband walked out on me with a baby and a toddler. Please seek help from somewhere OP.

PM if u want to chat. Im in the very same situation

I agree with @NeatPinkFinchgo and see your GP, a short course of medication can really help you keep your head above water. You've had a terrible shock and you're reeling, understandably.

Do reach out to family and friends for support too, a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on is what you need and then someone to help you dust yourself off and start the process of planning your next steps in life. It doesn't feel like it now but you will be ok and you will be happy again. It's a hard experience to go through and it's ok to lean on the people that love you.

Try not to think too far ahead at the moment, focus on getting through the day, or even each hour sometimes. It sounds trite but getting outside, walking in the fresh air, practicing self care with a soak in a bubble bath, your comfiest pj's, trying to eat little and often and watching familiar and comforting TV can all help. If you don't feel like eating much, try some thinly sliced apple or pear, plain biscuits like rich tea or buttered toast and tea. Even if you manage a few bites, it's something. If you're struggling to sleep, try the Calm app - lots of guided meditations for sleep and comforting sleep stories to listen to. Keep it simple - rest, food, gentle walks and give it time. In a few weeks you will feel stronger and the shock will lessen - you will start to see a clearer way ahead. Sending you hugs 🫂

I’m so sorry you sound heartbroken. Go to your gp and family for support. Do you think there might be another woman?

Its ever so hard. My ex informed me that he didn't love me anymore in February and left promptly. I was in a very dark place but it does get better.
What helped me was keeping busy, I cleaned the house, got rid of all his stuff and rearranged the furniture. Im a very pragmatic person and I knew he would change his mind so after the initial grief I focused on moving on. 6 months later I feel happy most of the time and me and my teenager muddle along nicely together.
I'm sorry it's so crap right now but it does get better, a little at a time.