Considering separation from husband after years of carrying family life alone

[SummerSun121]

Hi there,

im considering separation from my husband. Our marriage has been under strain for some time. I’ve 3 kids one of whom requires additional supports. Husband works non stop despite us being ok financially and me also working ft. I do all the life stuff, admin cleaning ,cooking, health apts etc etc. Not only that but he can’t seem to set boundaries with other ppl in his life which adds to my workload with last min requests for events, hosting etc. He also doesn’t bother doing anything special when it comes to occasions. I’m exhausted all the time. Seems to say he’s building a future for us but also appears to not put in much effort or won’t take anything else on. Do I bother to keep trying or face the inevitable?

Do it!! You will be so much happier and calmer not being resentful that you are the only grown up in the house!

The inevitable. I wish I could leave mine, 100% described what you said is my life. You get one life live it

Very true, just afraid it could end up worse on the other side. The resentment is eating away at me though.

You will feel free if you separate as you won't be carrying the burden of somebody who should be carrying themself. If your long term relationship is not adding anything to your life what purpose is it serving? I went through a similar experience, have been separated for 2 years now. Don't focus on the negatives first - you will find it difficult to make the changes that will benefit you. Once you have made the change and processed it, you will see your other choices. Take your time, the rest of your life is yet to come.