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STBXH has instructed solicitor

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Nootnoot1 · 09/06/2025 17:37

Hi all, any advice would be appreciated. I'm divorcing my husband, it was my idea. I was hoping to do things amicably with him. I told him to get an hours legal advice to see what he was entitled to financially and I would do the same. But he's now instructed a solicitor. I can't afford to instruct. I work part time, he's full, on a much higher salary than me. I don't know what to do now.

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Nootnoot1 · 10/06/2025 14:18

Doggymummar · 10/06/2025 14:05

You need a solicitor too. I put the cost of mine against the house. That way it was in my exes interest to keep the costs down as it was in fact devaluing the amount he would get too.

I'm also worried the sols will try and rip him off and drag this on for as long as possible.

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LemonTT · 10/06/2025 14:25

The next step is mediation and disclosure. Whether he pays for a solicitor or not and how much he pays is up to him.

Solicitors are regulated professionals who don’t rip people off. They can charge a lot because they provide expert and informed advice.

millymollymoomoo · 10/06/2025 14:27

Mediation would be expected first

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