Does anyone else feel really guilty about about it the idea of dating again?

[howfarillgo]

It's almost a year since I separated from my husband. He moved out last December, we've initiated divorce proceedings.

It's all very amicable, we still walk the dog together and will be spending Christmas together (for the kid's sake rather than ours).

I felt really low after separating until around August, since then things have seemed brighter. I tried online dating and have met someone I really click with.

The only thing is I feel guilty for seeing someone else. Like it's cheating? Is this just a hangover from being married for 20 years? Does it get better?

I can't talk from personal experience as I am only at the beginning of separation but I imagine this is a normal feeling. For 20 years you've honoured your wedding vows to stay faithful so to now be at a point of dating probably seems quite foreign. Maybe take things slow, it's ok to have a mix of emotions.

Pretty common feeling I think.

That’s great you’ve met someone you click with. How fab.
i think it will take time to feel like it’s not cheating but I guess it’s normal.
i would just enjoy the good times.
I dread the day I have to step into dating again in my mid 50’s and the thought of getting naked with someone new makes me feel 🤢 but reading positive stories like this gives me
hope.

That's good to know. Thank you!!

First proper date Tuesday. Wish me luck!

@howfarillgo have an amazing time, don't put any pressure on yourself. Just enjoy it