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Divorce/separation

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Why am i being treated like im the one to blame!

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whatamess100 · 20/08/2023 18:31

Too much back story to post but basically i found put he had an afffair with his class room assistant 18 months ago, he lied, gas lit me for 6 months telling me they weren't together when He actually moved in with her within 3 weeks lol the pair of then together have been pretty awful to me. She really is the worsed person he could of got with and it makes me happy to know one day she will be his karma lol sorry sounds horrible of me but this womans put me through the mill.

He's turned into a terrible dad, she and her child the same age are always put first and chosen over our dc. He offers no reassurance to his child who stuggles terribly with the seperation but that a whole other thread.

What is annoying me is how off he is with me no eye contact,wont acknowledged me, we're virtually nc we communicate only about pick up drop off which i implemented because i had to put some boundries in place at the time he was walking into the jointly owned home that i live in and kicking off ( i know he can enter but he needs to give 24h notice) hes so unfriendly he could say hello to me infront of our dc because i know he is aware he's off with me and causes him stress. I just feel like he treats me like im the one who had the affair and wripped our lovely little family appart yet i still manage to smile, say hello and tell them to have a nice time ect yet i just get blanked and im sick of it. He always looks miserable as sin, never see him smile even to our dc. He's most deffinently not the man i once knew. Hes only ok of he want's something and then once hes got it he reverts back to form. I should add that he had plenty off time to fess up, chose not to and got found put and i kicked him out, he wasnt going anywhere, not sure if thats part of the reason why hes off all the time or not.

No real reason for posting other then he dropped dc off earlier and i got blanked again 🙄

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millymollymoomoo · 21/08/2023 08:31

Guilt

panda88 · 21/08/2023 21:14

Hi just a rant really. My H of 30+ years walked out over 2 years ago after having an affair. No warning or explanation just came in and announced he was leaving. Had sorted everything, house to go to, most of his possesions taken or stored. My life fell apart, I had to adjust to the break up of my marriage, get used to living alone, start to rebuild my life while all along knowing he was still living life with her. I remained in the family home but then started receiving messages recently that he wanted his half. I get that half is his but its my home and I will be homeless if he pursues this as the sale of the house wont really give me enough to get anywhere else. Now he has said he wants a set of keys (he gave his back) to the house or he is going start charging me rent. I am at my wits end with all the upset hes caused and seems to be winning on every level while my world falls apart yet again thanks to him.

GrumpyPanda · 21/08/2023 21:50

panda88 · 21/08/2023 21:14

Hi just a rant really. My H of 30+ years walked out over 2 years ago after having an affair. No warning or explanation just came in and announced he was leaving. Had sorted everything, house to go to, most of his possesions taken or stored. My life fell apart, I had to adjust to the break up of my marriage, get used to living alone, start to rebuild my life while all along knowing he was still living life with her. I remained in the family home but then started receiving messages recently that he wanted his half. I get that half is his but its my home and I will be homeless if he pursues this as the sale of the house wont really give me enough to get anywhere else. Now he has said he wants a set of keys (he gave his back) to the house or he is going start charging me rent. I am at my wits end with all the upset hes caused and seems to be winning on every level while my world falls apart yet again thanks to him.

Hi fellow panda, you posted on somebody else's thread. Easier to get answers if you make your own.

panda88 · 21/08/2023 21:58

Ah didnt realise I had. Not done this before

whatamess100 · 22/08/2023 21:37

Your husband sounds like mine! Hope you get some support

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