Hi. Just wondered if anyone else has been through anything similar who could offer advice on solicitors to self representing etc.
Brief outline
Not married we have one child together 2 yrs old.
I have a son who’s 19yrs
He has son who’s 10 yrs (lives with mother)
We Both have a joint mortgage
I own a buy to let (mortgaged) for my pension) as self employed.
Partner left after having an affair, we were mid two storey extension.
Outstanding debt from extension he refuses to pay to make the home safe for our toddler.
Deed of trust in place bigger share to me. Wasn’t able to update deed of trust because affair came out during extension and he left. I’ve paid £20k more into extension then he did.
He refuses contact with our child (impacts me working)
Paying minimum maintenance
We had a lease car which I’ve been driving for years and he used his van. He’s now taking the car from me so I’ve got to find finances to get another car.
Basically doing everything he can to make it hard for me with money as he wants me to sell the house.
ideally I would like to buy him out but he’s asking for full equity despite the fact there is debt left and I put 20k more in.
He refuses to mediate and on any level and I’m now waiting solicitor letters from his solicitor.
The break up was awful and he became very abusive.
on top of that my dad died when my youngest son was four months old .
any advice welcomed. My solicitor said it’s up to the judge on the day which doesn’t feel my with confidence when mu life has already been turned up side down and I’m now suffering with my MH.