First day of feeling positive

[luckyreds]

Today was the first day I really felt positive; separated 3 weeks ago

I've realised that I've been hugely unburdened by being able to wake up every day knowing exactly how my day is going to go. Not planning for the inevitable argument, tantrum, hysteria over nothing. No dark cloud in the house, no resentments or ultimatums to deal with.

No doubt I will have bad days to come but for now I feel actually really OK.

Just wanted to share

Well done!! Are you still living together? We are which definitely doesn't help but hopefully not for much longer. I had my first day without crying a couple of weeks ago (I'm several months in) and although it didn't last it felt like progress.

The sun shining definitely helps me.

Thank you! We aren't. I have moved back in with my parents which has been difficult but living together would have been impossible- it ended horribly. No children as well which has made it easier.

Sorry to hear it had a difficult end, I hope it is ok at your parents house. I am enjoying living without resentment - I now don't expect anything of him as a partner (obviously as we have split) and it is freeing not to be let down all the time.