If you filed for D what were your reasons..

[BettyBo33]

Anyone willing to share the reasons for D as they were filed on the paperwork and did your Ex contest your reasons?

I'm going for refusal to contribute financially to household. He hasnt quibbled too much yet but we'll see, he seems to be making vague attempts in conversation to justify himself but iv said a solicitor probably wont accept lack of even minimum wage or any kind of business plan as proof of him supporting us....

Thanks tutuye. I thought you needed to list 3 or 4 reasons to file under unreasonable behaviour?

Oh, haven't come across that...

Suggestions...

Was abusive withholding money.

Would not involve himself in normal family life.

Withheld affection.

Withheld sex.

Was rude to family/friends.

Was unsupportive of outside interest.

Was not considerate of emotional needs/well being.

Was overly critical causing confidence issues.

Would not communicate and left you feeling lonely and unloved.

Or tell us why you left him and we can suggest how to word it.

Adultery.

He didn't quibble.

He also did no housework, DIY or took any of the mental load in running the household tho AND i did a large chunk of the organising/running and attempted improvement of his 'business' so i hopefully have enough

Lack of any care, interest and affection.

Propensity to get disproportionately angry about things and then to stonewall me for weeks and weeks.

Refusal to put my name on any family property and hiding assets - leading me to feel insecure.

Adultery. They advised against naming her.

I was advised that the ‘unreasonable ‘ part comes from the feeling it had on you. So, for example, how the unreasonable behaviour made you feel, impacted on your life. This would be different for each of us. Another tip (although rather blunt) is to list the first, the worst and the last incidents with approximate dates. Good luck

Oh and I’ve yet to discover whether he has contested

Adultery - and I named her as corespondent - and did it all myself... she refused to tick the box saying she agreed but the judge still granted it...

Refusing to take part in family life
Not doing his share of the housework despite both of us working f/t
Alcoholism
Not taking an interest in parenting his children

He quibbled initially, then signed.