Hi.
I am recently married and previously I told the wife that I would want to have kids but she said she didn't, and I said this was fine.
As we moved closer to the wedding she was saying that if we wanted kids we probably should start to think about things. This gave me hope that she was starting to think about kids.
Now she is not sure what she wants, but now we are married I have suddenly started to really want kids.
The wife says that she is afraid to be a parent because she thinks she would not be able to cope and this would then affect the child.
This rings true to me as my own mum could not cope mentally with it all and I had a tough childhood, and I would not want this for my children.
I love the wife, but she is very insecure and can get quite depressed, struggles with work and has very few friends. This is hard for me too, and then I am not sure if she could handle having children.
We are trying to make positive steps at the moment to help her confidence, but I cannot picture a happy family life with her in the future.
Is there anyone else who was fearful about having children but did it anyway?
How has the relationship been with your children and with your partner since?
Any advice to a women who is scared about having children?
Should I be considering leaving my wife because I cannot picture a family life with her?
Thanks in advance all!
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