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Should I send her family gifts on holidays? Advice please

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ben152 · 28/12/2017 03:25

The holiday season is here and I’m planning on sending a gift to my girlfriend in Cuba. She doesn’t know anything about it so I’m quite excited for my surprise. While discussing this with a friend, he asked why I wasn’t sending gifts to her family too. It made me wonder if I should send something for them. He said it’s going to be really impressive and will give me a rapport to them.

My girlfriend and I have been together for two years now. They know and support our relationship which is actually really nice of them. We met at LoveMe and I’ve been happier since she came into my life. I once visited her in Havana and her family welcomed me with open arms. This is why I was also considering sending them holiday presents. A simple gesture of gratitude, you know.

I’m just worried, though, that if I start sending them gifts they would already expect me to send something in all occasions. Also, I don’t have any idea what to get them. Sure, I can get a bottle of drink for her dad and something girly for her mom, but what about her siblings?

Another worry that I have in mind is that if giving them gifts would make me look arrogant in their eyes. Are Cubans okay with receiving gifts? I’m just being cautious since some people think that receiving gifts from a daughter’s girlfriend would interpret it as a way for us to buy their daughter’s affection or their own blessing. I need an advice on this.

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Poshindevon · 28/12/2017 06:12

I do not know what country you are from but Christmas is over. December 24 is the big celebration in Cuba so you are very late in sending a Christmas gift to your girlfriend.
You have only met her once and you have never sent her gift before?Sounds a bit odd.
As for sending gifts you cant be sending a bottle of alcohol through the post its illegal. Cuba has plenty of alcohol and if you had been there you would know that.
You have some very strange ideas on giving gifts. Cubans are normal people, so whats not to like about receiving a gift?
I would save your money for another visit to Cuba so you can better understand the culture, your girlfriend and her family which you cant do from a computer or phone.

DampF0ggy · 29/12/2017 01:36

I totally agree with Poshindevon. You have been in a relationship with someone for 2 years, but only met up once. That does not sound like a good relationship. I agree, save your money for another trip to Cuba and enjoy the rum when you are there

RebelRogue · 29/12/2017 02:24

Only met her once, or only visited her once in Cuba?

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 29/12/2017 11:25

It's way too early to start thinking about christmas. Have another few visits to Cuba to get to know each other better.

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