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contact STBXH on 21st wedding anniversary.

If I do - clearly not moved on but by not feels that last 21 years are being in-valued.

I had my 21st anniversary at the end of last year, after I'd started divorce proceedings. Didn't have any contact with STBXH.

Depends on the reason for your split though and how amicable it is?