When do you tell the children that you're divorcing

[DeniseH99]

I can't live with my DH anymore and have told him that I want a divorce. We have a DS (8) and DS (6). He works abroad pretty much Monday to Friday so we are only in the house together at the weekends. We've already serviced notice on a property that we own and he will be moving in there in 2 months time. I really want to move on with my life and to not wear my wedding rings anymore but I want to protect the children as much as possible (because my husband is totally unreasonable and is already out of control on the matter). So my question is when do we tell the children? Do we tell them now but he doesn't actually move out for 2 months so confusing for the children? Or do we tell them a few days before he does leave but not give them any time to adjust?

I think a few days before he leaves. I agree that telling them now but then nothing changing for 2 months is too confusing and will give them false hope that it won't happen after all. Adjusting once he's moved out will be no more difficult than adjusting while he is still in the house and may actually be easier.

Do you think they are likely to notice if you take your rings off? If yes, it won't kill you to keep them in for a short while longer.

I'd tell them a couple of weeks beforehand, so they have some time and it isn't too brutal. I'd then support your XH in his move and help him with it. That's what I did and our DCs seem to be doing ok.