Long long story will try and keep it short. Been with DH 11 years married for 2 have 3 dc between 10&3 . When I first met dp healready had a suspected 2 year old. But he had cut all ties as the mum cheated on him and she refused to let him spend xmas day with them as he reckons her bit on the side was there. She also didnt tell him when she registered the birth or when the baby was baptised (did it all behind his back , well this is his story anyway) anyway 5 years passed and he came home with a deductions of earnings from csa on his payslip for £280. He went mad, called csa they saie nothing they could do etc. We got a copy of birth cert and bap cert and another mans name was on there. Tje csa still told us they would only take dna as difinitive proof . Dh called ex and she said she put this other guy on as DH didnt have status at the time to be in UK and she wanted the baby to have a brittish passport. (I personally think this is true) anyway she refused a dna test ( probably scared she done for falsely putting another mans name down) so they closed the case.
Roll on to two months ago (child now 13) get a call out the blue from ex saying child wants to see her dad . Bearing in mind the ex has taken child to see DH's mum twice (all behind my back ) so he has met her twice, told my DC they have a sister, got a fathers day gift from her and she txts him daily "hi dad how are u etc" the ex has txt him twice one was an account number the other asking him to get her a new phone
I dont have a problem with this after all he has missed out a lot and supported our 3 and is a very good dad to them. But I just feel its all going very very fast and im worrying about the effect it will have on my 10year old. He has now changed his wassap pic from our 3 children to this ither child (my 10 year old has him on her wassap) and its causing a massive dark atnosphere in the house. He is shrugging it off and acting on top of the world that this child is back in his life calking him dad but I know this sounds selfish but I feel like he has dropped us after all these years and us in his own little happy bubble 