I have basically lived in a 10 year marriage which has been awful, so my husband and I have started talking about splitting up last year and we are now on some sort of agreement that is the only way. We have two kids, 3 and 9. I have been a housewife and he is self employed with around 70K annual profit. We have 2 properties, one without a mortgage.
I have just found out some e mails he has been to solicitors and he is "not in such a bad position as he thought". He has taken me out for dinner trying to persuade him to leave him the big house we have just moved into last year ( we have a smaller flat too). I didn't agree to anything but gave him an indication I also do want it amicable and less money goes to lawyers, the better.
now he is working behind my back, I need to make first steps. i have been to CAB twice, but didn't get my turn as it is busy. I know some solicitors give 30 min free, as I am swimming in the dark at the mo, I would appreciate someone gives me some idea of what I need to do. For example; I do not work, I am desperately seeking work, but is that going to work against me?
Things like this I need to ask lawyers. But I have no idea how much things cost , so I will try and go to CAB again first, but, all my accounts are joint, and I can not pay a solicitor.
Any any advice on how much things can cost, would be appreciated, as well as is CAB advice any good? I am adamant I want the girls for majority of time because I have been a full time mum for 9 years. House is less important to me. He also has super rich brothers, and I have not a penny on my own. I have found disgusting correspondence where he is writing to all his family what a horrid bitch I am and blaming me of all things he is guilty about. They stopped contacting me with no other reason a year ago. Finding out he is playing behind my back has really upset me, so I need to go and arm myself with legal help.