sensitive subject but need a man's opinion

[nappyaddict]

was going to nc for this but really can't be bothered!

so anyway here goes ....

i have a new bloke and it is really getting down about not being able to make me ahem well you know cos of him coming too soon.

i have told him that a few men haven't been able to make me through penetration and it is me not him but then he says yes but i bet they gave it a much better go than me and lasted longer. and yes i admitted they did but still it wasn't his fault.

how can i make him feel better over this. it doesn't bother me. imo its not all about the big O, i just enjoy the act itself but he doesn't see it like that. thinks if i'm not going to get anything from it it's a big waste of time. he doesn't seem to get that i do get a lot from it anyway.

i have tried taking control to show him what i like but then when i just get into it he goes and ruins it all by doing his own thing.

sorry this is so long!

and for any future encounters we may have.

[nappyaddict]

not too detailed at all - great advice

unfortunately think it will go unused now.

[DaddyJ]

Well, let's hope you won't ever need this advice again

Eric, ta for the stag tips - I found the websites! Looking forward to the next do already..

[SpareWheel]

Nappyaddict - reckon you ought to let him go first and play with / lick your clematis while he does some nimble finger-work. That way, you're more likely to get the big "o" before or soon after penetration. It kind of gives you a chance to catch up, so you cross the finishing line together...

[wishing1]

i agree with the other guy, have him wank (masturbate) more often, my dh does and he can last quite a while for me.

[amen]

"here is a condom (a durex one - don't know the name, can look it up though) that helps prolong the experience so to speak.

Have no idea if it works. Gleamed this knowledge from reading all the packets while waiting in Boots the other day."

do not use these.bought them once by accident.just made my manhood numb and meant i couldn't cum for nearly an hour.missed the start of the real madrid match.