Grrrr that you may have to pay to get him properly assessed!!!
Essbee, perhaps you are worrying about what you feel you should be talking about with your counsellor. Don't rush it, take it gently- you shouldn't be having to force discussions that you are not ready for. If you don't feel up to discussing 'issues' for a few sessions or longer, then don't. They need to gain your trust before you will be ready to give of yourself. It will take time. It does sound positive though - being happy and at ease with your counsellor is the biggest hurdle.