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I have COVID. AIBU?? I can't tell.

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alltheboats · 30/12/2021 16:15

So I currently have covid.

I had a very slight sore throat on Tuesday, a bit worse yesterday (took LFT neg) and this morning my throat got really sore and temp a bit high, and my lateral flow test is a definite positive today.

I've had 2 vaccines (moderna) but not been able to access booster yet. I also have been trying to get a pcr test but the website keeps saying there are none.

I've been isolating in my room as much as I can since yesterday am (Wednesday). I'm a single mum but the DC are older, one adult and one preteen.

I must have got covid from DC2 dad or his mother. I have not been anywhere else except their house. Since mid December. Literally nowhere. I put a months gas and electric on my meter mid Dec, went shopping mid Dec, but for the past 10++ days I have not been anywhere except their house on the 25th - 27th. DC have not been anywhere either. We are on a low income and I wfh. We don't have the money really spare to go places, and it might seem strange to some, but we don't really go places much, even pre covid.

I'm pretty sure I got it from them.

DC2 dad did not get the vaccines and doesn't wear masks, won't take any tests you know the drill. His mum who he lives with is extremely vulnerable (has had lung cancer 3 times and had COPD etc) but she has had 3 vaccines.

I have bad mental health and I'm a bit scared.

I told DC2 dad I think it's better we all isolate from each other for a few days, because he wanted to take DC2 to his house.

He turned up at my house anyway, kept knocking, and phoned the police on me because I wouldn't allow DC2 out to go to him.

Don't get me wrong, I'd have happily sent DC2 there (he goes there weekends), IF their house wasn't where I more than likely caught covid from. DC2 had Covid in Dec 2020, no one else caught it.

I just think he's safer (and following the rules) isolating at mine when I am in my room and away from him, windows open heating on, adult other DC is making us food etc, as opposed to going to his dad's where i got it, and also possibly giving it to his gran.

His dad came to my door and phoned the police on me because I wouldn't let him out to his.

AIBU??

I can't really tell.

I feel OK so far. Sore throat and temperature is 39 degrees but I don't feel ill from it.

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Dozer · 30/12/2021 16:17

Sorry you’re unwell.

YABU to speculate on where/from whom you caught the virus.

reallyisthisallthereis · 30/12/2021 16:21

I think if his mum is vulnerable, I think not letting ds2 go over there is a wise decision. If it was just his dad there, then it would be his risk to have ds2 over with him.

reallyisthisallthereis · 30/12/2021 16:21

Hope you feel better soon x

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alltheboats · 30/12/2021 16:22

How am I BU when I nor any of my household have been anywhere else EXCEPT their household?? in weeks??

Obviously I would deduce I got it from them.

I'm not unwell either, I feel hot and have a sore throat, not in any vulnerable category, but I am concerned about giving it to my DC or DC dad or his mum, and I am angry he called the police (??!!) on me because I said DC2 not going to him until Monday.

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Waxonwaxoff0 · 30/12/2021 16:26

What did the police say?

Technically if DS hasn't tested positive then he is allowed to go there (presuming you're in England). It's a difficult one.

How old is DS? Sounds like he's old enough to decide what he wants to do. Is there a court order in place for visitation?

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alltheboats · 30/12/2021 16:27

His mum is extremely vulnerable (71, COPD, lung cancer three times, only has 1 lung, other health issues). It infuriates me that he won't even wear a mask to try protect her.

I honestly have not been anywhere - even outside - for over 10 days - the ONLY place I have been is their house (2 mins drive away) on Christmas til the 27th. This is not cause I'm covid paranoid, it's just life for us on a low income and wfh. I do go to shops sometimes and family, just not recently.

I am deducing I got it from one of them, or DC were asymptomatic.

ex DP had a blocked nose and ex MIL was sneezing.

I gave them tests but they won't do them.

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alltheboats · 30/12/2021 16:29

@Waxonwaxoff0 I don't know what they said, all i know is ex DP called them after coming to my door.

There's no court order, DS goes there Friday to Monday morning every week.

DS is 12. We are in Scotland, so maybe the rules are different??

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Waxonwaxoff0 · 30/12/2021 16:32

Ah, OK. Legally then DS has to isolate too if you're positive! So he can't go to his dad's.

shoofly · 30/12/2021 16:33

Can DS do a lft? Realistically he has probably already been exposed. But if there is a positive lft at least you have a better reason for him not going

dementedpixie · 30/12/2021 16:35

The rules are different here in Scotland. The household needs to isolate and everyone take a PCR test. PCRs are showing as available again as I checked recently.

We have all done PCRs today as dh had a positive LFT yesterday

nellyburt · 30/12/2021 16:35

The three of you haven't left the house since mid Dec??

How did you get to their house over Christmas? Could you have caught it in the way?

LouScot · 30/12/2021 16:43

@alltheboats hope you did not feel too poorly. You're doing the right thing in line with Scottish guidance by keeping your DC2 at home, well done for sticking to your guts x

TinyLittlePandaSneeze · 30/12/2021 16:45

don't worry about where it came from. You're doing the right thing.

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alltheboats · 30/12/2021 16:46

@nellyburt We walked to their house and back to spend the 25th - 27th. Their house is literally the next street. Didn't see or walk past any other person as it was quiet.

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LouScot · 30/12/2021 16:46

*don't!! Not did not!

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alltheboats · 30/12/2021 16:50

I'm honestly not being difficult when I say I must've got it there.

Me, adult DD, and 12yo DS, have not been out since mid December except going to ex DP and MIL's on the 25th - 27th.

We, like others, were trying to keep Christmas normal.

So we were there 25th - 27th. Nowhere else. And I tested positive today.

One of them must have it before me, and that's why I'd rather DS isolate here, because they won't isolate within the house or even take a test.

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ReindeerPooppoo · 30/12/2021 16:54

@reallyisthisallthereis

I think if his mum is vulnerable, I think not letting ds2 go over there is a wise decision. If it was just his dad there, then it would be his risk to have ds2 over with him.
I don’t know about this, given the attitude of his dad he wouldn’t keep him home, he could take him to crowded indoor spaces. It really isn’t relevant where you caught it, lots of us have had it but we’re not hanging the chinese out to dry are we. Yanbu to keep your ds home and isolate whilst older ds runs the house. Well done on having a responsible ds who will look after his younger brother and yourself. Hopefully in a week you will be able to return to normal. Stick to your guns, your ds’s dad sounds like a right ***
SandysMam · 30/12/2021 17:01

I would be more concerned about why your adult DC and child has not been anywhere for weeks. Do they not have friends/jobs/social lives? Nothing to do with being on a low income, there are youth clubs etc. Sounds very isolating. Unless there is a big drip feed of disability etc.
Hope you feel better soon Op.

trumpisagit · 30/12/2021 17:04

Have your children done LFTs?

dementedpixie · 30/12/2021 17:09

They are all supposed to do PCR tests. Thinks there's more availability now

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alltheboats · 30/12/2021 19:51

I would be more concerned about why your adult DC and child has not been anywhere for weeks. Do they not have friends/jobs/social lives? Nothing to do with being on a low income, there are youth clubs etc. Sounds very isolating. Unless there is a big drip feed of disability etc.
Hope you feel better soon Op

Me and the 2 DC haven't been out since a week before Christmas.

Don't worry yourself, they usually do plenty - like music classes, and socialising with friends, they study, and I wfh. It's just the week before Christmas we isolated - so we could have Christmas at exe's house, to prevent one of us getting it and having to stay away for Christmas.

That's how I know it has come from exes.

Still can't get a PCR. Ordered a private PCR, but I'm positive on LF and feel ill so not sure what use it is.

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dementedpixie · 30/12/2021 19:56

They must release slots/tests in batches during the day as they were all showing as available earlier

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alltheboats · 30/12/2021 19:57

His dad was about to take him to the park today. I said no. Then he threatened to call the police on me.

I feel actually ill now, like a chesty cold. ugh.

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alltheboats · 30/12/2021 19:59

@dementedpixie I've tried, honestly. It keeps coming up as not available to the general public.

I ordered a private PCR (£75!!) but actually not sure what use it is as it's pretty certain I have covid with being ill and positive LF.

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dementedpixie · 30/12/2021 20:04

It took us a few hours yesterday to get PCRs booked for today. Had to do a 25 minute drive to get to the test centre