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Teen party & Covid - AIB a CF?

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Tatapie · 13/07/2021 11:45

I've got Covid, caught from my DS. DD hasn't had it so her Isolation will soon be finished even though mine isn't.
As per the guidelines!
She's invited to a party of a close friend the day after her official release, would you let her go? Should I ask the Mum or is that just being a CF giving her the responsibility of the decision ? If you were a parent of another guest what would you think if you found out before / after that there was a child there who was living with someone with Covid even if it was ok according to the guidelines?!

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Bordernotboarder · 13/07/2021 13:10

I absolutely wouldn’t send her. It’s just not fair on the others even if it is allowed.

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Tatapie · 13/07/2021 13:38

@Bordernotboarder thanks, when would you let her out to meet with friends?

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MrsEricBana · 13/07/2021 13:41

Definitely don't send her if you have covid!

marshmallowhearts · 13/07/2021 13:44

I would let her go; if she’s completed her isolation period and still no symptoms then when else do you draw the line? Can’t go out until she does have symptoms? Not quite the same thing but my youngest just isolated for 10 days due to a friend in her class getting covid (whole class isolated) — none of them got symptoms in that time and I sent her back off to school at the end of it. 🤷‍♀️

Jumpingintosummer · 13/07/2021 13:45

I wouldn’t send her or indeed put the other parent in the position of saying yes out of sheer politeness.

I think going out after her isolation is fine but in public, not to a party.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 13/07/2021 13:56

What a horrible position to be in!

I think I’d probably not let her but I really feel for you.

HalfShrunkMoreToGo · 13/07/2021 13:59

If her isolation period is over then she can go. Obviously if she comes out with any symptoms that will change.

I'd be erring on the side of caution and having her do an LFT on the last day of isolation just to check she hasn't caught it without showing symptoms.

stealthninjamum · 13/07/2021 14:03

Doesn’t her isolation start ten days after your test? Sorry I can’t keep up with the rules but dd1 self isolated for ten days as a friend in her class had covid. During this time we were doing lateral flow tests. I understood that if mine was positive she would need to start her ten days from the day of my positive even if it was her tenth day. I might be wrong but I think it’s better to be over cautious.

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Tatapie · 13/07/2021 14:06

I don't think I can let her go, she can go out at the weekend shopping with friends who can join her or not.
Next month kids won't have to self isolate at all but we're not there yet and it does seem unfair to burden the birthday child's party with this cloud of risk. Such a shame, but that's Covid.

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Tatapie · 13/07/2021 14:08

No it doesn't @stealthninjamum , see the illustration. Because she was part of the original infection.

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bumbleymummy · 13/07/2021 14:11

If her isolation is up then it’s fine for her to go.

SummerHouse · 13/07/2021 14:14

She has done her ten days she can go. Are people reading this wrong?

Orchidflower1 · 13/07/2021 14:15

Don’t be THAT mum. Of course she shouldn’t go. Hmm

bumbleymummy · 13/07/2021 14:16

@SummerHouse

She has done her ten days she can go. Are people reading this wrong?
I’m wondering that too! How much extra time are people keeping their children in for after their isolation period has finished? Confused
Lindy2 · 13/07/2021 14:21

If I was a guest at the party I think I'd rather not go if I knew someone was attending from a house where other people actually still had active Covid infections.

Technically she would be out of her isolation but only just. We waited until everyone in our household was out of isolation and recovered before we went out.

stealthninjamum · 13/07/2021 14:50

Thanks for that link tatapie sorry I clearly misunderstood.

I realise it’s because in my case none of the household had caught covid yet poor dd1 keeps self isolating because of school friends.

toastantea · 13/07/2021 15:52

@Orchidflower1

Don’t be THAT mum. Of course she shouldn’t go. Hmm

Can you explain this?

Don't be what mum?

Orchidflower1 · 13/07/2021 16:32

@toastantea I mean being that mum that the other mums/ dads talk about because she is blatantly taking the mick from the system. Who wants a child to a party when her mother has Covid ffs?!

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Tatapie · 13/07/2021 16:41

@Orchidflower1 would you keep her in til I'm fully recovered / out of isolation? That would be 18 days in isolation for her when she doesn't have Covid!!

Would you do my half way weekend thing?!

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Orchidflower1 · 13/07/2021 16:54

Yes I would @Tatapie it gives her that bit longer. I would also inform the parents of the dc she was planning on meeting. Just so they are aware. I think that’s the fairest thing to do.

anothernamereally · 13/07/2021 17:13

I'd let her go - my dc just did 20 days of isolation because my dd got it and then so did I, it was pointless, against guidelines but school requested and no one else got it in the household, but they missed a lot of school and were very bored. The rules are quite clear, your dd is fine to go out once her 10 days isolation from the first household positive test

toastantea · 13/07/2021 17:32

[quote Orchidflower1]@toastantea I mean being that mum that the other mums/ dads talk about because she is blatantly taking the mick from the system. Who wants a child to a party when her mother has Covid ffs?![/quote]

I don't see how anyone is taking the mick out of the system

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Tatapie · 13/07/2021 18:18

It's clearly not black & white! So difficult. Aside from the infection issue there's the potential for self isolating for the other guests if she goes and then gets it from me within 48 hours so reluctantly have declined the invite. She'll see if anyone wants to meet her later in the week, and her friends / parents are aware and can make an informed choice. Thanks all

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Orchidflower1 · 13/07/2021 18:22

Hope you’re all better soon @Tatapie. I think you’ve made the right decision.

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